AmericanHoney Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I met up with this guy through a friend at the mall and it was a total disaster! He didn't talk much and I didn't either. He followed me around the whole time at every store I went too almost tripping over me and still didn't say anything! It was time for me to go because I had to meet up with my cousin for dinner so we said good-bye and he mumbled something about texting or something like that so I texted him when I got home and said there was no need to be shy around me I don't bite and he never texted back. I keep analyzing thinking why was he so shy?? Why did he follow me around like a puppy dog?? Why didn't he text back?? I suppose there will never be another date ( not really sure if I want another one) but why do I keep overthinking it if the date was so bad??
Rinnix Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 If the date wasn't so great, you can't blame yourself. You were both shy, and likely didn't connect. Sometimes its best just to let these things go. There is no point in looking for what was done wrong. Just take it as you don't have chemistry. If he does reply (and you're up to it) perhaps schedule a second date to make up for the first one.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 I guess you are right. I suppose in my eyes I hoped he wasn't shy and he probably hoped I wasn't shy. It is weird how things turn out.... My cousin said maybe you were so shy around him because you didn't feel connected to him. I guess she could have a point there:)
Mimi99 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 He was probably intmidated by you? Maybe you're very attractive compared to other girls he's dated before or another reason. I wouldn't think too much about it. He needs some @@lls. When he gets them he'll text back if not, his loss. Thats how I see it.
thatone Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 the mall? men are terrible shoppers, what a bad idea for a date. i'm guessing a female friend set this up? plus if you're occupied looking at clothes and shoes, what's he supposed to say? you're occupied with something else any time he might say something, and whatever he might say is completely unrelated to the situation he's in. that's why i don't go to the mall .
vsmini Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 the mall? men are terrible shoppers, what a bad idea for a date. i'm guessing a female friend set this up? plus if you're occupied looking at clothes and shoes, what's he supposed to say? you're occupied with something else any time he might say something, and whatever he might say is completely unrelated to the situation he's in. that's why i don't go to the mall . Yea - that's what I was thinking - mall is a bad choice. My boyfriend and I could talk till we turned blue in the face and have a great time but if we have to go shopping together for anything - he clams up and looks depressed the entire time. I try to go alone
thatone Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Yea - that's what I was thinking - mall is a bad choice. My boyfriend and I could talk till we turned blue in the face and have a great time but if we have to go shopping together for anything - he clams up and looks depressed the entire time. I try to go alone i'm the same way. i can even annoy my mother in a store. last time i moved i was single, and mom wanted desperately to help me shop for sheets and towels and furniture and other such things. by lunch even she was mad at me. we mutually agreed that i should hire a decorator.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 Actually I suggested it because he lives literally around the corner. He was the one who agreed to it. I said I plan on doing serious shopping if you don't feel up to it we can reschedule. He said no way I want to meet you finally so let's meet up okay?? Why he agreed to meeting up at the mall is beyond me but whatever....lol
Star Gazer Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Actually I suggested it because he lives literally around the corner. He was the one who agreed to it. I said I plan on doing serious shopping if you don't feel up to it we can reschedule. He said no way I want to meet you finally so let's meet up okay?? Why he agreed to meeting up at the mall is beyond me but whatever....lol Nah, why you suggested even meeting up at the mall in the first place is beyond me, but whatever... I'm teasing you, but... Honestly, that was a really, really bad date idea. He was eager to please, and agreed to it... but it's just as much on you for suggesting it, particularly when your goal was to do some "serious shopping" rather than getting to know him. Malls are used for "dates" when your parents have to drive you and drop you off. I assumed you were an adult?
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 I am an adult but since he works in one of those kiosks at the mall I asked him if he was working and he said no I am not and said oh I was going to say hey and he said well I can still meet you at the mall if you want even though I am not working and I said cool and we met at the mall. Again it was totally his idea not mine. I am an adult and so is he why in the heck he agreed to meet me at the mall is beyond me but whatever.....
Star Gazer Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Okay, so that wasn't really so much of a "date" as an "introduction"...? Is that fair? I've said it before, but I love your name... love that song.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 I guess I shouldn't of said date as much as an introduction. A bad introduction at that:p Thanks I love Lady A they are my fave band and I really love that song hence my SN. I guess there really wasn't any " spark" and they fact he was shy and I was a little shy probably didn't help the situation any better but hey it happens and me overthinking probably doesn't help.
thatone Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 let him arrange a dinner or a bar or some other such thing, he'll probably do a lot better .
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 I doubt that will even happen. I texted him twice he hasn't texted back and that was 4 hrs ago. I do not see an actual date in our future anytime soon. Oh,well it happens.....
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