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Exes that tell you they're below you and you deserve so much better

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Karala Established Member

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...They annoy me.

vsmini Established Member

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No kidding. So what.....the next person they want to be with is on a lower level? They want to go down a notch??? Please.:rolleyes:

Nohbody Established Member

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I have a feeling I'm eventually going to get one of those. It's probably true, though.:laugh:

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Did you ever see the movie "He's just not that in to you" ? They have little sections during the movie where women tell the camera the lines they have gotten at the end of a relationship, and there is one with these 2 women sitting on a park bench and it was something along the lines of "Oh baby you need someone who can love you and spoil you like you deserve" or something like that (it's been a few years since I've seen it) and then the woman had a similar retort to that line.

 

this reminded me of that movie. Good movie if you haven't seen it - book also.

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Yeah, read the book, seen the movie... You don't want them to, but they have good points.

 

Variants : "You're gonna meet a lucky guy and make him so happy.' ...HUH?

 

"You're such a great woman, such a great catch, I don't deserve you". Yeah right, Im sure you can't wait to settle for second best.

 

Men need to read/watch chick lit/flicks, not women.For educational purpose.

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If someone gave me that ridiculous quote, then I'd just prove them right. Id go

and find myself someone better. Why not, I deserve it? :laugh:

 

Men need to read/watch chick lit/flicks, not women. For educational purpose.

 

Agreed.

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Did you ever see the movie "He's just not that in to you" ? They have little sections during the movie where women tell the camera the lines they have gotten at the end of a relationship, and there is one with these 2 women sitting on a park bench and it was something along the lines of "Oh baby you need someone who can love you and spoil you like you deserve" or something like that (it's been a few years since I've seen it) and then the woman had a similar retort to that line.

 

this reminded me of that movie. Good movie if you haven't seen it - book also.

 

 

LOVE THAT PART

"well that coulda been you....is what I was leaning towards."

 

Here it is

ahahaha

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LOVE THAT PART

"well that coulda been you....is what I was leaning towards."

 

Here it is

ahahaha

 

lol indeed ^^

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Karala Established Member

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My ex is a reasonably smart and honest guy, and serving me thoses lines is probably one the very few really dumb things I've ever had to see him do.

 

Oh well, he was probably telling me that in good faith and not even aware that he was serving me used up lines (that's why men need to watch more chick flicks and stop making asses of themselves)

 

Probably something I'll never understand about male psychology.

 

I guess maybe that's their efffort to make us feel good about themselves when they know they're making us feel bad about ourselves by rejecting us. But the condescending tone of it - like they have to explain to us that we're not bad people - makes it sound even worse. At least to me.

 

PS I don't mean to be male-bashing as I don't condone that... and not every man on the planet has ever said those lines (at least I hope). But i have to say, it's something that annoys me.

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After reading the forums here, I think men and women share an equal capacity for both cliche and being hurtful. And being hurt.

 

Edit: Ambien wore off.

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Karala Established Member

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If someone gave me that ridiculous quote, then I'd just prove them right. Id go

and find myself someone better. Why not, I deserve it? :laugh:

 

I finally did, in the sense that I did not try and go into a discussion about how right I was for him, but just shrugged my shoulders and even gave him a slightly snide look as if to say "erm... yeah, this line is indeed below me and below you".

 

Thank God I have little things like that to remember that my lost love was not such a flawless perfect mate after all.

 

Oh and, by the way, my concern is not if I'll ever be able to find someone else that loves and appreciates me, but if I'll ever be able to find someone that I love and appreciate. So, totally irrelevant comment by the way, ex.

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After reading the forums here, I think men and women share an equal capacity for both cliche and being hurtful. And being hurt.

 

Edit: Ambien wore off.

 

I'm sure they do :]

 

I'm just waking up a litte hung over from the meds, but f*** it, I did get to sleep. Taking it day by day and night by night.

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The first time my ex broke up with me he told me that I deserve better.

 

But not this time :(

 

This time he knows he's better off without me.

 

"I'm happier without you"

 

Were his words to me this time. :(

 

I don't blame him. I hate myself. I know he deserves better and I don't deserve anyone anymore. :(

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This time he knows he's better off without me.

 

"I'm happier without you"

 

Were his words to me this time. :(

 

Come to think of it, I have to say hearing just the opposite is not much of a comfort either.

 

Being dumped just sucks any way you put it.

 

Maybe we should try not being so attached to the words they told us.

Maybe your ex told you he would be happier without you but what does he know. There's not telling if years down the road he doesn't regret losing you and realizing he lost the best thing he ever had.

 

Once again, happiness (ours of course ^^) is the best revenge! I know from this vantage point most of us are thinking "yeah that would be a nice act but I don't see how I could pull it off"...

I'm having moments of utter despair myself but I'm still alive, which must mean I haven't given up...

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I got this line from my ex-girlfriend as well. What a piss take.

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Karala Established Member

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I got this line from my ex-girlfriend as well. What a piss take.

 

oh, so this stupid line really ISN'T gender-specific after all.

Scr*w them all. Sheesh.

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My ex has that bit, but I have no idea why the hell

Too strong actually.

When we started dating he said

My first girlfriend was worth like me

My second girlfriend was a league above me

You are something completely else and you deserve someone better, but I won't give up.

He gave up a year later D:.

 

Everytime we fought he cried and said he doesn't worth me

Last time we contacted he said "I'm not worth it"

It's annoying like HELL.

 

I don't get it.

What's with that accursed sentence?

Like, really? You want to be with someone "less worthy"?

 

(I don't believe in using the word "worth" on people, myself)

 

Excuses.

Pft.

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Excuses.

Pft.

 

Nail on the head!

RuinedLife Established Member

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I think some people who use that line may mean it in some way but they are commitment phobics and they just have an overwhelming need to escape to new things after a certain period of time or once a certain level of intimacy has been reached.

 

Commitment phobics may also use arguments as an excuse to break up with you, which I believe may be why my ex disappeared and abandoned me as he did. I still blame myself for triggering the break up though. :(

 

For giving him that irreversible conviction in his decision. :(

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I got this line, apparently us breaking up is whats best for me because he doesnt deserve me and i deserve so much more - dont you think i should get to choose what i deserve and what i dont?

 

Then we ended with the its not me its you line :love:.

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I've been wondering for weeks what posessed her to ask me if we can "still be friends." What planet did she come from where that line isn't both ridiculous and painful? "Hmmm? I can't be your lover but I can be the friend that hangs out with you and your new lover? Let me think about that."

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I've been wondering for weeks what posessed her to ask me if we can "still be friends." What planet did she come from where that line isn't both ridiculous and painful? "Hmmm? I can't be your lover but I can be the friend that hangs out with you and your new lover? Let me think about that."

 

Yes being friends with someone who you love and has rejected that love is not possible I think. Although if complete closure is not possible (eg. in my case because of unresolved issues) it is unfortunately necessary and it hurts so much I can tell you. :(

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Yeah, I got all of those lines...you are better than me, it isnt me it is you, I probably got apologized to about 100 times, and then there was, you are my best friend and I hope that we can keep that. I repeatedly told her I would not just be her friend and she has repeatedly tried to make me be her friend. Then when I went NC, she started telling people that the experience was extremely painful because she lost the best friend she ever had. I just thought to myself that she is pretty pathetic because she didnt lose her best friend, she threw her best friend out the freaking window.

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