Titania22 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Hey Guys, Not really a topic about dating, and no real question, just kind of in quiet shock, and wanted to share with someone. My son has a best friend, who my daughter and I also consider a good friend. He visits whenever he wants and is always welcome. It seems like he is a part of our small family. He is 12, almost 13, and has an older brother and younger sister. In the last week we just found out that his parents are breaking up after 18yrs together. When I heard I said "poor 'insert mothers name'". And my daughter straight a way had a go at me, because my daughter had observed her character as not very good. She had even made some attempts to subtley break up the friendship between the boys, sending her son to a different school etc. Based on the fact that my daughter is a brilliant observer of people, I will give more credence to the next part. The other evening the boys father came to pick him up (he never does that), and I invited him in for a cup of tea. The man is not doing well. His whole world is crumbling around him and there is nothing he can do. I recognised his pain, as it is something I had experienced myself when I went through divorce. His situation isn't the same, but the pain is. (In terms of finance, his wife has an extraordinary income, and he has a decent 'but not great enough for this to be an easy financial transition' income.) As I say to everyone who walks through me door, my home is a sanctuary for everyone. And he can feel free to drop by anytime he feels like it (I specified even if he is crying or having a panic attack). He was very grateful, because I don't think he has anyone to talk to during this transition. Also he is thankful that my home has been such a happy sanctuary for his son. (We might not have much to offer people in terms of food, but we do have a judgement free space, where it is always time for fun.) It is friday here, and tonight the son is sleeping over, and his mother is moving into an apartment this weekend. So with any luck he will hang out alot this weekend. I think it would be awful for him to be there watching it all happen. The kids are going to spend half of each week at each place, so that has to be unsettling to. And having been through it, no doubt seeing alot of pain, tears and brokeness in each parent. Anyway I just needed to share that, not because I wanted to start a male vs female war on here, but because it is unsettling being faced with that kind of pain.
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