BayDavis Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 so this past weekend i found out my ex girlfriend had been lying to me about seeing someone else. she is my ex so there's really nothing i can say, but we we were hooking up while she was with this other guy. while we were "friends" after the break up it felt like we were together and she told me many times how she's not talking to anyone and just wants to be alone and figure her stuff out. so i found out 100% that she was sleeping with this guy and me at the same time and i'm angry/hurt/sad. she wouldnt even tell me why... so i sent her a email saying im glad i found out because it showed me the person she really is. i'm going through ups and downs now. i slipped up the last few nights telling her friend i slept with my ex's friend and then txted my ex the same (i didnt actually hook up with her friend). she didnt respond and today i apologized for being immature. i dont know why i do things like that. i'm just hurt and want some reaction or something. i guess im looking for some sort of answer. i dont even know if she feels bad or anything. i loved this girl with all my heart and dont know how she could do this to me. we were together for like 2 years. what do i need to do man?
wilsonx Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Ok... Look, stop talking to her... stop texting her, stop sleeping with her... shes just stringing you along ITS THE HARDEST THING YOU WILL DO BUT STOP ALL CONTACT. I HAD the best sex of my life the last night my ex was here even though she was my ex. I do not know what made it better but shes probably feeling guilty for the way she treated you subconsciously even though she doesnt show it. Look I promise you that things will get better. Im like 2 days no contact and Im still roller coastering but I flirt with every girl I see... make eye contact and say hi. Rebuild your confidence and become a better person. I cant wait for the day my ex gets the **** out of my mind... She lied to me, cheated on me physically and emotionally and then blamed me for the breakup. She's going to lose in the end, we were best friends for 2 years previous and I have no intentions on ever rebuilding that friendship with her. Shes not a real friend. Let her problems be someone elses
Nohbody Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 You need to create distance so you can develop emotional distance. Go NC (look for Caliguy's guide). Wilsonx is right on the money... the sex is better after you've broken up. (kidding, kidding - he's right about everything)
Author BayDavis Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 i feel what you guys are saying and can really relate to wilsonx. it's like my same situation. she tried to make me feel bad and was saying stuff like "i dont know what i want anymore" after we hooked up. she gave me so much false hope and this no contact thing is really hard i last like maybe (3-4 days is how long i usually go). it's like i dont wanna let go for some reason. she said she wanted to be alone and she needs to figure herself out without being with anyone but then goes and hooks up with someone else and lied to me about it. now i found out she's been on match.com for like 4 weeks. it's hard forgetting someone who you planned you life around for so long.
wilsonx Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Let her go, work on bettering yourself I made the same mistake of planning for the future, she wasnt ready but never told me. Next time if she doesnt come back take your relationship day by day
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