This Asian dude Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 So this is what happened in the beginning of March: I talked to my ex girlfriend for the first time in 4 years. What happened before was, we dated for a month and a half but her parents didn't approve of dating at the time. This was in middle school. Fast forward 4 years I started talking to her on facebook. She told me She had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship with a dude who was being too clingy and had her on a leash. So we texted for about a week constantly and went on one date. She texted me and told me she had a good time and I kissed her twice at the end of the night. 2 weeks later she started to show signs that she lost interest (not texting back right away, logging off in the middle of conversations on Facebook etc.) I knew I was coming off a little too strong on her. About a week and a half after I texted her to come and watch me in a 3 point contest (which I won), she didnt go but she did say she would try to make it. At that point I was a little frustrated with her and we had a little argument.One Week after this argument, I texted her to give me a call when she could, so I could ask her what we were doing? but she never called. I left it at that but she was still on my mind. after this, there was no comunication between us, besides on facebook when she would like my status on a week to week basis but I would not do anything back. I texted her once last month to see how she was doing but she replied and that was it. Yesterday she shows up at my graduation to watch her friend graduate but right as the ceremony ended, I headed up to go find my family but right when I found them, she came and found me and gave me a hug and was all happy to see me. She met my mom and my older sister. My mom took a picture of me and her, so the ex texted me later that night to post those pictures on facebook. I was out partying the whole night so I didnt text back. She took a picture of me and her friend during the ceremony (the dude sat behind me), which she then put on facebook and tagged me in it so I'd know. I texted her back this morning and I said I would put them up when I had the time and I also told her that she looked pretty in the pictures. she said thanks and that was the end of the conversation. so I'm really confused. is she still trying to make us happen? or is she still playin games? Advice please...
Silivren Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Ok - just want to point out... maybe you are being a little pushy? I mean, she did JUST get out of a 3 year relationship with someone who "had her on a leash"?? Perhaps she really does like you but you are coming on a little strong.. after being with someone VERY controlling for many years you need a little time to yourself. Just give her some time. I know how this feels from having been in her shoes. If you are too pushy she's just going to think you are going to treat her like her ex did and try to control her - that is the fastest way to send the girl running. Take a deep breath and relax and just let things develop
Author This Asian dude Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 she told me she was completely over her ex and they had just broken up the month before, in my mind I was like BS! But I mean its been like 3 or 4 months since that date, so I mean, should I just let the idea of us being together go completely?
Author This Asian dude Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 any other advice from anyone else?
Author This Asian dude Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 so I should wait for her to come to me? Even though I did that, for almost 4 months from the time of our date back in march til my graduation earlier this month. I'm saying I didn't ask her for an explanation all this time but I did ask her to talk once back in march, which she never responded to.
lalalandman Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 It doesn't sound legit. Ask yourself, does it feel right? I had something similar happen to me recently where an ex from 7 years ago told me how she royally screwed up with me. She kept sweet talking me and calling a bunch. I took her calls but I didn't take anything she said seriously at all. After like a month, she called and said I might be angry about something. She told me she started seeing a really close friend of mine. The funny part was I didn't care, at all. I told her good luck and that I wasn't upset. My point is, don't take her too seriously. Plus she just got out of a 3 year relationship.
Author This Asian dude Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 ok so she finally texted me last week. The first time, she just said hi and she asked me what I was doing and I started to giving her one answer replies and I took forever to text her back. I ended the conversation quickly. 2 days later she texts me again, this time she starts flirting with me. At this point I'm still pretty mad about what happened so Im not really taking her seriously. Again I took forever to text her back but I did reply with normal lemgth answers. She still hasn't mentioned anything about all that BS, she was doing to me back in March. Im kinda of in this zone where I still kinda of like her but I could be fine without her. I am starting to fall for her again tho. I could use some more advice
Author This Asian dude Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 any advice? she hasn't texted me again
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