Why are BS allowed in this forum

[reboot]

and inversely, some BS/BW have been helped by OW/OM posting here

 

You're absolutely right.

[herenow]

Funny you never hear people saying that OW/OM shouldn't post in the Infidelity forum (and many DO post there). I personally find the dynamics from all sides of the triangle to be fascinating. This place would be a lot less interesting if everyone were limited to one little place where they could post and none of our thoughts and ideas could mingle.

 

Maybe that is where the "ignore" function IRL comes in. If the BW does not exist, then there is no problem. If the BW has no voice, they have no opinion, all is well. No BW, no one is hurt, all good.

 

But, in reality an OW has to be prepared when the previously nonexistent BW becomes real. No way to ignore her. What do you do then? In that case, you can come here for a dose of that reality. You can get the POV of real BW's. And, maybe it will help you in how to deal with your own situation (you used in general terms).

[silktricks]

I just don't think people very often grow if all they hear is agreement. It's the disagreement and the opposing points of view that expand our horizons. (Why I'm not a fan of either MSNBC or FOX News)

[herenow]

I just don't think people very often grow if all they hear is agreement. It's the disagreement and the opposing points of view that expand our horizons. (Why I'm not a fan of either MSNBC or FOX News)

 

Yes indeed. And helps us understand (if we want to), agree or not, the POV of others. It is what makes a society work.

[Tony]

Can I ask one innocent question? Im new to this forum and when I entered I thought this was "Support and discussion for those who find themselves involved with committed partner". Why are BS and such allowed in here? Im not asking this to be mean.. but as fOW Im looking for peer support from people in similar situation..instead of defending myself to angry and bitter people all day. I just dont find this kind of communication very constructive for anyone because it just not based on objectivity and arouses too many emotions.

 

Isnt there a support group for betrayed spouses somewhere? I wouldnt go there to bash.

 

and again, please dont take this as attack towards anyone.

 

If you are attacked, report those posts and I will permanently ban the authors. I am getting tired of this happening. There is no reason for it. You are very right to be unhappy. People here are supposed to at least be empathetic and give support. This category is not for people to beat up on each other. I'm sorry these people are badgering you but, again, it's up to you to report them and if there posts are, in fact, found to be problematic I'll handle the situation with just a couple of clicks on my computer.

 

Thanks