california15 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 It's been a little over a week and I haven't cried the last 2 days and feel somewhat, if only maybe a little miniscule better. But i'm hesitant; I'm skeptical that I'm really truly grasping that a many year relationship is over and wonder if I'm in a stage of shock/denial and that it really hasn't hit me. And that these "OK" feelings for lack of a better phrase aren't real and that one day it's gunna hit me he's gone forever and then things are gunna be horrible... and I'm dreading that day =/ Did anyone go through this after it was over? Like a period of calm before the storm?
Annalisa Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Hi california! I broke up about 2 months ago. We were only together for about a year though. Post break-up I felt relief at first then it sank in and I was really sad for maybe 3 weeks. Some days are worse and some days are better. But over time the "worse" days become less frequent. I think going out with friends and meeting new people really helps. I don't mean look for a new relationship instantly but it's nice to know there are so many guys out there and when I'm ready, there are plenty of fish in the sea. All the best! Lean on your friends. Some of them might surprise you by being better friends than you'd ever expected them to be
alrighty_then Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I went through so many different emotions, and I still am (4 months since breakup w/ my girlfriend/fiance of 4 years). I am sure there was some feelings of relief mixed in there, but for me the relief never lasted too long.
inandouttalove Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I think the best thing to do is dont be alone have family or friends with you or try to busy yourself with stuff. If you are left alone you may try breaking the NC cause feelings will overpower you thats what I do I call someone and or watch a movie go out or exercise try to forget about it sometimes I even throw my cell phone in the back of the closet at night lol cause sometimes I do wanna text or call but I try not 2 cause I know I will feel even worse when I know he wont pick up or worse at this point he will pick up and say something I really dont wanna hear
Annalisa Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I went through so many different emotions, and I still am (4 months since breakup w/ my girlfriend/fiance of 4 years). I am sure there was some feelings of relief mixed in there, but for me the relief never lasted too long. In my case, we had broken up the month before the "official break up". I initiated it then I initiated getting back together but he resented me and didn't work on the relationship. So things were really bad after we got back together. It was affecting other areas of my life like my studies. The second time we broke up was during a fight. He initiated it and I agreed. My exams were right around the corner so that may be why I felt relief. Because the relationship was so bad towards the end that I felt it would be too hard to fix and I had to focus on my studies. And he wasn't doing anything to try and make the relationship work.
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