hello07 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Okay. So I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years about two months ago. Strictly NC after that, until yesterday. I asked to meet up with him to discuss some things. But I originally broke off our relationship. It was abrupt, it was stupid, I was confused, and I completely hurt him more than I could ever explain. Yet he told me he's not mad at me. I told him that I wanted to break it off to see other people, that I was getting bored. But now I just realize that I truly miss and love him and I was plain stupid. And then I asked if he wanted to get back together...he's thinking about it still because of what happened. But now both of our families know about our whole blow up and break up. I'm terrified (should we get back together) of seeing his family. I'm afraid they'll hate me for almost destroying their son, in a way. They used to love me, but now.....I shudder. My family is pretty supportive. People around my work all have different feelings, and I guess I really shouldn't let it get to me, but.. idk. any thoughts?
alrighty_then Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 If you two get back together, don't be afraid of his family. It's their son. So naturally they are going to side with him and be upset at you for hurting their son. But unless you did something so terrible, so out of the ordinary, then they will forgive you if they see that you are sincere in your effort to be with him again. I definitely wouldn't let people at work get to you. I wouldn't care what they think. Unless they have been close friends to you for a long time, they probably don't have your best interests in mind and don't know how you feel/what makes you happy.
pd8mxq Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 OK first of all, thank you for posting here and it gives the dumpee some hope that the dumper could actually want you back. So thanks a lot. I will try to be as subjective as possible because me being the one being dumped would obviuolsy bias towards you getting back with yr ex no matter what. But being subjective, I still do not think you should care what others say. After all, its about you TWO. The one who could potentially be with you the rest for your life. Your family, his family, your friends his friends wont be there all your life (well, maybe one or two) but if you still love yr ex and if yr ex feels the same, then just go with yr heart. U dont want to lose yr ex before its too late. Just sit down and talk beforehand though and talk through the previous problems.
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