Ross MwcFan Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Have any of you women ever found a man physically attractive, but was then tuned off and didn't pursue anything more with him, because he didn't have the right 'smell'? When I say not having the right smell, I'm talkng about pheremones, not actually smelling bad, like as though he hadn't had a wash for a week. I hear about women really liking the smell of their man, and I'm wondering just how important it is.
TheLawmaker Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Well, some women even like the smell of sweaty guys, so it's not necessarily that. Who knows? What attracts women is one of the mysteries of the universe!
Emilia Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 It's not possible to analyse attraction like this, it's a subconscious reaction, you are never 100% sure what attracts you to a person. You could have a duplicate version of the same man or woman and you wouldn't feel the same attraction necessarily. People think it's legs or bum or whatever but it's way way more complex than that. The brain is the biggest sexual organ as they say.
iris219 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Have any of you women ever found a man physically attractive, but was then tuned off and didn't pursue anything more with him, because he didn't have the right 'smell'? Yes. I can find someone physically attractive, but if the smell/pheromones are wrong, I will stop dating or not start dating him. For me, pheromones are very important, much more so than physical attractiveness.
oaks Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Now that someone said "yes" I'm waiting for Ross to say "my pheromones must be broken". (Sorry Ross.)
iris219 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Now that someone said "yes" I'm waiting for Ross to say "my pheromones must be broken". (Sorry Ross.) You're probably right. Please don't think that, Ross. No one's pheromones are broken. I don't think it's possible.
denise_xo Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I've never ever been put off by a man because he doesn't smell 'right'.
Cee Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I don't notice a man's smell until after we've been intimate or at least kissed. So it's a non-issue in early dating. Only twice was I repelled by a man's smell. One guy I dated anyway for a year. I loved him to pieces. The other I wasn't that into, so I ended it for other reasons.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 You're probably right. Please don't think that, Ross. No one's pheromones are broken. I don't think it's possible. I'm just worried, that if even someone did find me physically attractive from photo's, and they liked my personality, and we ended up meeting offline, that it could still be possible that they would end up not being attracted to me as soon as they're with me in person, because of pheremones/me not smelling 'right'.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 I don't notice a man's smell until after we've been intimate or at least kissed. So it's a non-issue in early dating. Only twice was I repelled by a man's smell. One guy I dated anyway for a year. I loved him to pieces. The other I wasn't that into, so I ended it for other reasons. Interesting, so you was with a guy who and you were still attracted to him physically and his personality, even though you were repelled by his smell? And do you mean his pheremones, or did he actually stink?
carhill Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 A good control would be to poll women who otherwise didn't find a man physically attractive upon first sight but later, after 'smelling' him, but before 'getting to know him', became attracted. I'd be interested in reading such a poll. We often read that many/most women decide whether a man is attractive within the first few seconds of encountering him, whether up close or at a distance, so the question begs where exactly is that coming from? The vomeronasal organ, the organ pheromonal sensory perception, supposedly atrophied in adult humans, or somewhere else? Interesting...
oaks Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I'm just worried, that if even someone did find me physically attractive from photo's, and they liked my personality, and we ended up meeting offline, that it could still be possible that they would end up not being attracted to me as soon as they're with me in person, because of pheremones. Worry less, but also accept that most women you meet like that won't want to have a second date, and that's a normal part of (online) dating and not some flaw on your part.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 A good control would be to poll women who otherwise didn't find a man physically attractive upon first sight but later, after 'smelling' him, but before 'getting to know him', became attracted. I'd be interested in reading such a poll. We often read that many/most women decide whether a man is attractive within the first few seconds of encountering him, whether up close or at a distance, so the question begs where exactly is that coming from? The vomeronasal organ, the organ pheromonal sensory perception, supposedly atrophied in adult humans, or somewhere else? Interesting... Feel free to make the poll if you want.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Worry less, but also accept that most women you meet like that won't want to have a second date, and that's a normal part of (online) dating and not some flaw on your part. I'm kinda worried maybe all women I meet offline who were initially attracted to me from my personality and photo's online may not want a second date because of something being wrong with my pheremones.
Dusk1983 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Another day, another ridiculous Ross McwFan post heading towards a Ross McwFan pity party.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 I know it sounds stupid, but maybe me not smelling right/pheremones not being right could really be what my problem is.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Another day, another ridiculous Ross McwFan post heading towards a Ross McwFan pity party. It's nothing to do with me feeling sorry for myself, I'm just genuinely curious, and worried.
iris219 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I'm kinda worried maybe all women I meet offline who were initially attracted to me from my personality and photo's online may not want a second date because of something being wrong with my pheremones. Maybe. Or you might not feel chemistry with them (which I think is linked to pheromones). Or they might reject you for any number of other reasons. Or you might find that you're not into them for whatever reason. There are a million things that can happen to make either person not want a second date. Stop worrying about things you can't control, and focus on what you can.
carhill Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Feel free to make the poll if you want. What if I had a poll and no one came?
oaks Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I'm kinda worried maybe all women I meet offline who were initially attracted to me from my personality and photo's online may not want a second date because of something being wrong with my pheremones. Girls can smell your fear. Worry less.
Saxis Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 What if I had a poll and no one came? Then you're not using your pole in the right way...
Dorie Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I'm kinda worried maybe all women I meet offline who were initially attracted to me from my personality and photo's online may not want a second date because of something being wrong with my pheremones. I am . If you've never met with any women offline, how would you know one way or the other? They might be wild about your pheromones. They might be put off by something that has nothing to do with smell. It's like you have a theory and want to hide behind it. Don't mean to be harsh. It's just sounds a bit daft. As another person posted, that's dating life. We alllllllllll get rejected after a first date but just not alllllll the time. Don't mean to offend but do you see a counsellor? One could help you with this kind of fear based thinking.
carhill Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Then you're not using your pole in the right way... True 'dat Reflecting, the periods when I had a predatory (for myself) mindset towards women was when they seemed to appear out of the woodwork. Perhaps there was a chemical component to that, IDK.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 (edited) I am . If you've never met with any women offline, how would you know one way or the other? They might be wild about your pheromones. They might be put off by something that has nothing to do with smell. It's like you have a theory and want to hide behind it. Don't mean to be harsh. It's just sounds a bit daft. As another person posted, that's dating life. We alllllllllll get rejected after a first date but just not alllllll the time. Don't mean to offend but do you see a counsellor? One could help you with this kind of fear based thinking. I do get rejected all the time in real life, yet online I seem to attract women easily. This is what has made me think of the pheremone thing. It might sound daft, but I'm all out of answers and don't know what else to think. Edited June 9, 2011 by Ross MwcFan
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