Winherback Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 (edited) So me and my ex of 3 years have had our issues like most everyone else, and have separated before,etc... We have had a hard time getting on the same page meeting emotional needs,etc. Shes a hard one to crack in this mannor, as she is an emotional roller coaster. But its all fixable imo. Starting w me being the MAN and not putting up with her ****. Now, we were supposed to meet up, talk, and then go our separate ways. Before when we got to this point I was always like no.... lets work on this,etc... and it didnt get me much of anywhere. I probably did too much and she may have lost some respect for me along the way because of this. She has lost the spark basically. Now, I was like ok... I agree, lets meet, talk, exchange our stuff, and go our separate ways. I have never done that before. After I responded with that, I asked her to meet up that day as we had planned, and she says she couldnt handle seeing me, her emotions are skyrocketing, and that she was already in pieces. Im thinking really? Then why are we breaking up. Anyway, I said... ok, then tomorrow. Then the next day she says she cant, has too much stuff to do and had a trip planned w her mom for the weekend. So we dont talk over the weekend, her mom is still in touch with me btw. I am out doing my thing, updating my facebook, adding new girls to my friends list.... and this week comes up and I talk to her about meeting up and the first thing she says on the phone was that she was just thinking about me and is super super sweet on the phone. Haven't heard that tone in a while. She says she cant do it that day but we agree on the next day and I name a place and she is all like I love that place, and says it a couple times and is just sounding all different and super sweet. Well, then that day comes up and she calls me twice, I call her back and she is super sweet again. Asking what I was doing, I say walking the dog... training him on the leash. She says its best if I do it, cuz he is too strong for her. A comment you would say if we are together. But says she cant meet afterall cuz work came up. But just the really sweet tone, its not her fault for pushing things off, saying I hope you have a great day in a super sweet voice, and I say lets just do it another time,etc.. Then, the next morning I get an email from her forwarding a groupon deal to a concert this Friday. Random. Why in the world if she is wanting to break up with me would she send this? Whats up with the tone and pushing this off? Is she starting to regret where we are? Girls? Whats your input? Edited June 9, 2011 by Winherback
alrighty_then Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I'm not a girl. But I think the obvious response would be that she probably is unsure of things. She doesn't want to fully break up, but she doesn't want to be fully back together. Maybe she wants to keep you around and keep you interested for a while so she can see if there's anything better for her out there, and if not she'll still have you to come back to. Just my thoughts.
pd8mxq Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 IM not a girl either but dont read too much into what she says. Dont try to read between the lines so much because it will drive you mad. I was in this situation a few months ago too and I find it torturing into reading everything my ex said. the tone, what the ex wrote, etc..... Dont do that becuase very often, it just happened that they wrote soemthing without the intention of being sweet. As for the Groupon, did she ask you to go with her? If so, go for it, take it slowly. MAybe something will re-ignite from there. Did she breakup with you by the way?
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