joejoe Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Hey, so my girlfriend of 4 years dumped me about 5 weeks ago, over this time there was no contact what so ever. We didnt break up over anything major like cheating or jealousy ,I think our relationship got stale and she got bored. Anyway I broke NC a couple of days ago and rang her but she didnt answer so I just accepted that was that and I couldnt do anymore. Two days later She text me however asking me how I was. We exchanged a few friendly texts, where she initiated alot of the conversation and added smiley faces to her texts. Anyway I said id chance my arm and said would she like to me for lunch. To my surprise she enthusiastically agreed. I dont want to read to much into this and I was wondering what people thought about this.
dreamscape123 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 well what ever happens, and what ever you decide to do, I hope it works out well for you. Wish my ex would do the same to me....
Mack05 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I wouldn't read too much into it mate. You guys are both VERY young. I think you both need to live life first before settling down. Settling down at an early age can be a nice feeling of security and specialness (as you haven't been with many other people) but as time goes by it can lead to a very unfulfilled life, where you end up being resentful at each other. People can sometimes hold you back living your dreams. Mid 20's 2 kids, debt repayments up to your eyeballs. Life can get very tough, very quick. I don't believe 'in the one'. I think we can meet more then one person, that we can have a special connection with and fall in love. Meeting the person you get married too is about the correct timing in life and you both being in a very good place in your lives. Too many people get married now these days because it's the next step to take and you feel insecure without the other. Those are not reasons to get married. Chances are both of you will have at least a few more relationships before you both settle down. First loves are the hardest to leave go, as the feelings are the most intense/raw you ever feel (hormones and all that). I know alot of us on this site think of our ex's as the enemy. The thing is they must have great qualities, otherwise why else did we fall so hard for them? I'm sure your ex is a nice person who misses you, but I wouldn't go reading too much into this. You could build up your hopes and get them crushed again leaving you in a worse spot then you have been previosuly. I urge you to thread cautiously here...Even if you did get back together, it could be because one of you is scared to face the world without the other. Not a good reason to try rebuild a relationship... My first serious girl and I were together 7 years. We broke up after 3 and then back together 9 months later. We got on great at first after our reunion but the old problems never went away. I lost 4 years ignoring my inner voice. Everyone is different but my advice to you is to thread seriously careful here.
LjHappyDays Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Mack05 - Wow , i have just read that, although i am not in the same position ive been thinking of contacting my ex. But what i have just read , your absolutely right. No matter how much you think there is no-one else out there, and no metter how much you think no one else wants you the fact is they do. I was getting upset last night questioning my looks etc, (im not vein but i am attractive!!) So why the hell am i moaning thinkin no one else will want me ?! COs the fact is They Will! joejoe - This is absolutely your descion but just remember even thou you have been split up for a bit , the old feelings come straight back when you get back with someone, which if you end up breaking up again.... the feelings will be so much worse. Just think how many people there are in this world..... although you had a good time with your ex, you will have many more good times. If my ex wanted to meet up i would jump @ the chance, so i cant condiscend you! haha. But just make sure you do the right thing. x
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