KaraU Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 About 2 months ago I discovered my partner of three years was going onto dating and amateur porn websites and talking to people on them regularly. It got to the point where he convinced me to let him take explicit photos of us and then secretly posted them on one of the websites. He has always been a great partner and I do still love him to pieces. Unfortunately on top of all of this he had told people about certain fantasies and other things I had told him in confidence and also sent one email to a girl asking her if she was still having sex for money. He says it was a strictly online thing and he'd never cheat on me (in my opinion he has, he violated the terms of our relationship BIG TIME) and I have agreed to give him a final chance. But how do I know if I can ever trust him again. I'm still so hurt and angry about the whole thing but I really don't know what to do. Please help
shadowofman Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Sorry you were betrayed by a man afraid to be who he is. It's not a matter of giving him another chance. If you are not interested in the things he is interested in, why would you want him to abandon them for you? IMO, your interest should be in his happiness and not in repressing his inclinations. Likewise, your interests should be in finding a man without these inclinations. Or, you can meet somewhere in the middle rather than forcing the relationship to be on your terms or his.
Author KaraU Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 I'm sorry but I don't quite understand what you mean? What terms are you talking about? The term where someone remains faithful to the other in everything? Last time I checked that was a term that went BOTH ways. If I had done the same thing he'd have said the exact same thing. He can post photos of himself on any website he wants, as long as it's him alone, I don't really give a toss. Is it too much to ask not to have my privates splashed over smutty websites for anyone to see? And don't even get me started on trying to hire women for sex, while in a relationship. Or shall I accept that as a sweet little quirk and move on....
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