JaneyAmazed Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Just thought I'd update it's been 5 months since I confessed my affair and 5 months and since contact with xOM (same day obviously!). I see things clearer than ever before and I feel my heart healing. I love what Dr. Phil said today. I was watching the episode he did on a "love triangle." He said that physical intimacy is the one part of marriage that should always be exclusive to husband and wife. That should seem obvious, but people don't realize just how destructive it is when they go outside marriage for physical intimacy. It can be downplayed as "just sex." Well, it's never just sex. It goes beyond any other type of betrayal. For a marriage to heal, it's like recovering from a cancer that has seeped into our bones. It will take a long time. But I wake up every morning thanking God for another day with my husband. The good news is the good days are getting more frequent. The fact that I can sing in the shower again lets me know I've come a long way. Just to have these good times, singing without thinking about it, laughing, planning the future with my husband is worth every tear I've cried. I love my family, and I am so glad I'm able to appreciate them more than I have in a long time.
imagine Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Funnily enough, a good marriage should be a triangle. The third member should be God. The closer both of you get to God, the closer your marriage to your husband. Most marriages are roller coaster to some extent -learn to find your spouses love language and NOT the one's you would like. Also avoid lovebusters: bad habits, angry outbursts, disrespectful judgements -I guess you've seen these at marriagebuilders.
YellowShark Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Funnily enough, a good marriage should be a triangle. The third member should be God. The closer both of you get to God, the closer your marriage to your husband. How about you keep your bible thumping off the board and keep it in the church where it belongs. Deal?
What_Next Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Funnily enough, a good marriage should be a triangle. The third member should be God. The closer both of you get to God, the closer your marriage to your husband. Ugghhhh. Janey, good luck in the future. 5 months is but a grain of sand on the beach of time... Expect future bumps in this long and hard process. With patience, honesty and love overcome them.
Kidd Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Left you a post on your other thread, Janey. Keep doing what you're doing.
bentnotbroken Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Funnily enough, a good marriage should be a triangle. The third member should be God. The closer both of you get to God, the closer your marriage to your husband. Most marriages are roller coaster to some extent -learn to find your spouses love language and NOT the one's you would like. Also avoid lovebusters: bad habits, angry outbursts, disrespectful judgements -I guess you've seen these at marriagebuilders. Love this.
nyrias Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Ugghhhh. Janey, good luck in the future. 5 months is but a grain of sand on the beach of time... Expect future bumps in this long and hard process. With patience, honesty and love overcome them. Life expectancy is 78.7 years in the US. (http://www.google.com/publicdata?ds=wb-wdi&met_y=sp_dyn_le00_in&idim=country:USA&dl=en&hl=en&q=average+life+span) 5 months is roughly 1 in 189 of that. The number of grains of sand on a beach is a lot more orders of magnitudes bigger than that.
imagine Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Sorry I'm so long in responding: To Yellow Shark and What next for their comments, I'm speaking to a lady who acknowledges God in her correspondence. If she is offended, let her speak. Your country you have a statute that allows freedom of speech. My country would call your interjection - rude. I apologize for this parentheses on Janey Amazed thread. My future comments will be directed to Tony.
What_Next Posted June 12, 2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Life expectancy is 78.7 years in the US. (http://www.google.com/publicdata?ds=wb-wdi&met_y=sp_dyn_le00_in&idim=country:USA&dl=en&hl=en&q=average+life+span) 5 months is roughly 1 in 189 of that. The number of grains of sand on a beach is a lot more orders of magnitudes bigger than that. HA, thanks. Too much time on your hands my friend. Thanks for the ridiculous post though, it did make me laugh. imagine, umm whatever.
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