hurtingbad1 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Me and my ex have been together for 2 years, we have broke up and got back together more times then i can count. There were periods where we got along awsome. About 2 weeks ago we hit rock bottom, and 4 days ago we talked and she said " I dont think we should go out with each other right now, I need some space, I feel numb, and im not happy with myself." She also says weve been fighting alot and that it seems we had more bad times then good. She mentioned its probly best we dont hang out either. About 3 months ago was the last time she said she loved me, she said she still has little feelings for me. I asked her do you think we have a chance in the future and stuff like that, basically the only answer i got was, "I dont know, i need time to think." The break up was sunday night, and now its wednesday, I havent seen or talked to her untill i found out she was really sick today. Which I texted "i heard you were really sick, how are you doing?" Her answer was.."Yah im very sick!!, doing ok... wish i was at home resting, how are you?" I wrote, im doing good trying to keep busy, get well soon. Tried to keep the no contact thing going. I feel like im going crazy, I really want to see her, and talk to her just to take the weight of my chest, even that little texted helped. What do I do?, What do you think she wants. Shes kinda a shy girl, she has a 5 year old kid that she gets part time, I know shes not seeing anyone else. Shes not like that. 3 or 4 months ago she was talking about wanted to get engaged and married. Can her feelings for me just disapear like that? Shes really close with my parents cause she has no family here. Neither me or her have even told my parents we broke up, they dont even know. SHould I? or is that a sign of weakness... Please someone help me, i know this is long, but im going crazy.
Fedor Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 All you can do is pick the pieces and move on. Let her come to you.
Nohbody Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I don't think telling your parents you broke up is a sign of weakness. They may be able to give you some valuable advice and insight, especially if they are close with her. Chances are, she hasn't fallen out of love with you. I can't begin to tell you what really is going on, but it could be anything from stress and pressure to the fear of a deeper commitment. If you have been on and off again for a while there is obviously something in the dynamic that needs adjusting. Consider pre-marital counseling if you can convince her of coming back again. For now just stay NC and try to figure out the dynamics of your relationship with this person.
Author hurtingbad1 Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Is even texting her once in awhile to much? She works for my mom, im wondering if i pop in there with a smile on my face and ask how she doing, if that maybe her seeing me will put me on her mind. Can she all of a sudden remove me from her head? or is she hurting to?
Author hurtingbad1 Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 I don't think telling your parents you broke up is a sign of weakness. They may be able to give you some valuable advice and insight, especially if they are close with her. Chances are, she hasn't fallen out of love with you. I can't begin to tell you what really is going on, but it could be anything from stress and pressure to the fear of a deeper commitment. If you have been on and off again for a while there is obviously something in the dynamic that needs adjusting. Consider pre-marital counseling if you can convince her of coming back again. For now just stay NC and try to figure out the dynamics of your relationship with this person. Hey, im wondering if me telling my parents, that they will tell her that im really sad and depressed. And that will boost her ego
Nohbody Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Tell them not to tell her, then? If you go strict NC, then there is no communication, not even text messaging. Not even looking at her facebook/myspace/posterous/twitter, etc. Give yourself as much distance as you can so you can get a more level head.
Author hurtingbad1 Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Tell them not to tell her, then? If you go strict NC, then there is no communication, not even text messaging. Not even looking at her facebook/myspace/posterous/twitter, etc. Give yourself as much distance as you can so you can get a more level head. Its so hard to get through the day at work, i rush to the gym right after and it takes the pain away for about an hour, I try getting 12 hours of sleep to. Comparing week one with week two is there much pain relief?
skydiveaddict Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Can she all of a sudden remove me from her head? or is she hurting to? She can and she has. Quit putting youself through this. She's not hurting at all. Run the other way, fast.
Nohbody Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Comparing week one with week two is there much pain relief? Everyone is different, and if you interact with her it will make things worse in some ways. Each day will not be better than the next, but it's like a wave moving in a general direction of you being ok. I didn't start to feel better until about a month. That's when my heart stopped feeling like it was bleeding and on fire at the same time. Now it just hurts and feels empty. Don't worry, there's much suffering to come.
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