ConfusedGuy28 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 So I've noticed that people on match (at least in my experience) want to add you on facebook. I personally don't have a problem with it, and I'll give complete access to my profile (I don't have anything personal on my profile really anyways). However, what's the proper etiquette when adding multiple women at the same time? There's this girl I was talking to on match but she wanted to text more and call less until we met. That's cool. She also mentioned she wanted the ability to date other guys in the mean time, so ok. In the meantime, I've added 3 girls on facebook. Keep in mind, this wasn't to make this girl jealous. That's not my intention. But, if she's going to be looking for other dates (when I was simply happy to just be talking to her) - I don't see any reason holding me back from talking to a few other girls myself (even though it's completely against my nature). So - is there a do or don't to this? I've just been deleting the little thing that comes up saying "X is now friends with Y"
GivenUp0083 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Yeah man, in this situation I would NOT accept her as a friend on facebook. I've allowed women to be my friend on facebook even before we met: One girl flaked and never went out with me, the other girl I dated for 5 months. If I was ever dumb enough to go back to online dating....I would never let a woman see me on facebook until after something was established. She wants to get to know me, she has to spend time with me and talk with me to know. Facebook takes the mystery out of it, and it's clearly obvious that if you want to maintain her interest, you have to withhold as much info about yourself as possible and feed it to her in teaspoons, not dump bowls on her head. As soon as your girl told me she wanted to keep talking to other guys (why would she even bother bringing that up or telling you?) I would've taken it as a huge red flag, seen it as lack of interest in me or lack of seriousness about finding a relationship, and I would've denied her request. If I were you now, I'd just remove her. She's not that interested. She shouldn't have said anything to you. It's safe to assume girls you date are talking to other guys, but it's not something you talk about.
NoReallyThatHappened Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 I would never add someone I had not met or only barely met to my facebook account. You have no idea who that person really is or what they really want from you. I had several men ask me to do this but I politely declined saying that I only added actual friends. Nobody had a problem with that or got upset or anything. Do you really want them creeping on your ENTIRE facebook history?!? haha
motive2002 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I would never add someone I had not met or only barely met to my facebook account. You have no idea who that person really is or what they really want from you. I had several men ask me to do this but I politely declined saying that I only added actual friends. Nobody had a problem with that or got upset or anything. Do you really want them creeping on your ENTIRE facebook history?!? haha I've had this happen. "Ooh looks like you were going through a rough time when your exgf cheated on you..." I dunno why, but hearing that from a person I recently met was creepy. They had to have gone waaaaaay back on my wall posts to find out about that, and that just says STALKER in big capital letters to me. I'm still creeped out about it.
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