Dorie Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 How comfortable are you with laughing about, mentioning, admitting bodily functions during the Getting To Know You period? I've been dating this guy a month. We are going on holiday for 4 days. We are sharing a room. Nature is bound to call during that time. I worry about going to the bathroom, accidentally passing gas, that kind of thing. How should I react if he does? Ignore it? Comment on it? What's your opinion about it?
yessy21 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Ignore it or giggle. i mean u have to use the bathroom eventually. i dont pass gas in front of my boyfriend but he farted on my leg last night... lol. it depends how comftorable u turn out to be with each other. go to the bathroom with the faucet on if anything.
tigressA Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Something related to bodily functions is very likely going to happen on your holiday that you or he would find embarrassing. Just laugh it off and/or make a funny comment if he says something. If he doesn't, you can ignore it. My BF and I have been together for 4 months and there's never been any discomfort about farts. Sometimes we jokingly inquire about each other's bowel movements. It's not for everyone, but it works for us. If your BF is mean or rude to you if something happens, he needs to grow up, and you should tell him to lay off because "Everybody poops."
collegeguy_24 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Watch Family Guy together, that will cure all awkwardness and make you both feel better.
Nexus One Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 I don't think the question is "how long", I think that the moment you feel comfortable is the right moment, the time that it takes to get comfortable with each other will probably differ per person and/or per couple. In high school I once had a conversation with a girl that liked me about farting. And just to make sure I didn't get the wrong idea about her she felt the need to inform me that she never farts, not even when she's alone. Needless to say I didn't believe her, but I did think it was funny and cute.
Eeyore79 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 There's nothing worse than ignoring a fart, because both of you feel uncomfortable - the best way is just to make a joke of it. I usually react to farts with pretend shock: "Omg, that's terrible! I thought you were such a nice guy!", hide my face under a cushion and laugh. The aim is to make the other person laugh too, and set them at ease. When I fart I usually crack a joke and blame the dog - if there's no dog there the other person is bound to laugh.
Els Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Eh, if you're close enough to sleep together for 4 days, you should both be close enough to be able to handle the bodily function stuff IMO. Doesn't necessarily mean you have to fart right into his face, but I wouldn't worry too much about it if I were you.
oldguy Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 I knew when, what I thought to be my conservative gf, (now wife), let one rip & started laughing that we where meant for each other, LOL
TheyCallMeBruce Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Nice women never fart in front of H or BF. Nice women only go to the bathroom for No. 2 when her man is nowhere to be seen. In that manner the atmospheric pollution of the BM is private. Smelling "fart or fecal material" from your girl or wife is not romantic. I am a guy and I never fart in front of my SO. Farting in bed can be avoided by having a nice BM before bedtime. If the urge comes then get up and go to the bathroom to fart in private. This policy should be maintain even in very long term marriages. Totally disagree. If you can't fart in front of your SO, then you're in a lousy relationship.
denise_xo Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Totally disagree. If you can't fart in front of your SO, then you're in a lousy relationship. +1 on this one.
germain Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Nice women never fart in front of H or BF. Nice women only go to the bathroom for No. 2 when her man is nowhere to be seen. In that manner the atmospheric pollution of the BM is private. Smelling "fart or fecal material" from your girl or wife is not romantic. I am a guy and I never fart in front of my SO. Farting in bed can be avoided by having a nice BM before bedtime. If the urge comes then get up and go to the bathroom to fart in private. This policy should be maintain even in very long term marriages. It must be nice to have this kind of control. I'm guessing she's already heard you fart while you're asleep. Is it really that big of a deal? It's apart of life, our bodies - digestion! We put the stigma on it.
Jazzari Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 My husband not only farted in bed, he would wave the covers to make sure the smell was fully appreciated! I would scream and laugh and start smacking him. He would retaliate and things would excalate into good times. I'm not to that comfort level with my current SO. I turn on the fan or shower when I go to the bathroom to hide the noise. But it's only a matter of time. I can see he will be the type to have fun with it too.
Author Dorie Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Cheers everyone for responding. I admit I'm a bit more shy about these things than the average girl. People here made me laugh though and I see I'm worrying too much about it all.
Dust Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Ask him for a “Cleveland Steamer!” After that a fart will seem tame.
Author Dorie Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Ask him for a “Cleveland Steamer!” After that a fart will seem tame. What is that?
Author Dorie Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Ask your man on the trip. We're British. He's not going to know. Why mention it if you're too embarrassed to explain it?
Dust Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 We're British. He's not going to know. Why mention it if you're too embarrassed to explain it? Because I’m American it means I have an advanced sense of humor especially when it comes to your predicament.
Author Dorie Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Because I’m American it means I have an advanced sense of humor especially when it comes to your predicament. Actually, you seem to be typifying the American stereotype of crudeness with this post. Not that you differentiate between that and a sense of humor.
thehead Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Actually, you seem to be typifying the American stereotype of crudeness with this post. Not that you differentiate between that and a sense of humor. Lighten up, Francis. Personally, I never fart around my girlfriends. It's just the way I was brought up. But my last girlfriend used to fart in her sleep which I found hilarious but never told her about. She'd be mortified. If you happen to let one slip, just excuse yourself and continue on. If he does, don't shame him for God's sake. Make a small joke. As for having to use the bathroom, if you're not comfortable, your choices are hold it for four days or try and sneak into the bathroom when he falls asleep.
USCGAviator Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 My husband not only farted in bed, he would wave the covers to make sure the smell was fully appreciated! I would scream and laugh and start smacking him. He would retaliate and things would excalate into good times. I'm not to that comfort level with my current SO. I turn on the fan or shower when I go to the bathroom to hide the noise. But it's only a matter of time. I can see he will be the type to have fun with it too. Sounds like he showed you mercy from the dreaded Dutch Oven.
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