She goes from, "You have my heart" to "I thought I gave you my heart"

[Surf Rider]

I have posted similar threads like this one. Not too far into our relationship, she told me that I have her heart. She told me many times, at least 10 to 12. I believed her for it. She even proved it to me when we had been dating almost a year. Her crazy ex-bf kept on trying to win her back. She even blocked him on her facebook and she told me confidently, "Babe, no worries, YOU have my heart." About 4 months later, she broke up with me. One of the first questions I asked was, "Why did you say that I had your heart? Her reply was, "I thought i gave you my heart." She then told me she just doesn't give her heart away like that. I don't understand? Her answer doesn't make sense. She either gave me her heart or she didn't. I'm confused??

[geegirl]

I have posted similar threads like this one. Not too far into our relationship, she told me that I have her heart. She told me many times, at least 10 to 12. I believed her for it. She even proved it to me when we had been dating almost a year. Her crazy ex-bf kept on trying to win her back. She even blocked him on her facebook and she told me confidently, "Babe, no worries, YOU have my heart." About 4 months later, she broke up with me. One of the first questions I asked was, "Why did you say that I had your heart? Her reply was, "I thought i gave you my heart." She then told me she just doesn't give her heart away like that. I don't understand? Her answer doesn't make sense. She either gave me her heart or she didn't. I'm confused??

 

Maybe at the time she did feel that way. She felt strongly about her feelings for you and most likely meant what she said. Overtime things changed for her. It happens. Her feelings changed for whatever reason and she then realized that it's not what she thought it was. Maybe she got caught up in the honeymoon phase and months later when the reality of the relationship hit her, it fizzled out for her. Who knows what transpired between her head and her heart.

 

The fact is that she broke up with you and can't give you what you want. You had each other's heart when you were in the thick of your relationship. But sometimes feelings and situations don't always remain the same. We can analyze and speculate to death but we'll never get the answers we want. You work with what you know. You know that she has decided to move on for whatever reason and it's enough for you to start doing the same. Trying to figure out the whys and whats about them will never get you anywhere.

[Lilmisus]

I think that what happened was that she was infatuated by you and happy at the time in your relationship. Obviously, for one reason or another, things went downhill and she realized that she probably didn't feel as strongly as she thought she did..therefore saying she "thought" she gave it to you..when she didn't. You didn't have the power over her feelings that she thought you did..and time is what opened her eyes to that...sadly.

 

It's a horrible feeling though to realize that someone says that they feel a certain way towards you, then "realize" afterward that they only imagined it. So..I feel your pain and confusion that you're probably feeling right now. I'm sure that sometime in the (near) future, you will probably truly steal someone's heart and love, and you'll be well deserving of it.

[Surf Rider]

I think that what happened was that she was infatuated by you and happy at the time in your relationship. Obviously, for one reason or another, things went downhill and she realized that she probably didn't feel as strongly as she thought she did..therefore saying she "thought" she gave it to you..when she didn't. You didn't have the power over her feelings that she thought you did..and time is what opened her eyes to that...sadly.

 

It's a horrible feeling though to realize that someone says that they feel a certain way towards you, then "realize" afterward that they only imagined it. So..I feel your pain and confusion that you're probably feeling right now. I'm sure that sometime in the (near) future, you will probably truly steal someone's heart and love, and you'll be well deserving of it.

 

Thank you for your encouragement.