sabienne Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Ok, I'm new to the this dating thing - I was in a relationship for 6.5 years, so bare with me here. I met a guy on the weekend, and he got my number. I didn't get his. I'm sure he has tried to call me the last couple of nights, but I have missed the call both times. I've had one missed call per night on my phone, from the same number that I don't know. The problem is he hasn't once left a message! I really hate calling back numbers I don't know, so I'm not going to. My policy has always been, if you want to talk to me badly enough you will leave a message. So boys, I'm asking you this - if you call a girl, why wouldn't you leave a message and at least identify who you are as you know I don't have your number? Is this attempted booty calls? On Tuesday and Wednesday?!? Like I said, I'm new at this!
Thatguyintx Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 I think you should think about changing your policy to not call back. A simple call stating "I missed a couple of calls from this number, just wanted to check and see who it was from." Protocol states he should leave a voicemail, but maybe he's too nervous to leave an unsolicited voicemail. Maybe he's not sure he's calling the right number? Who knows! Go on and call the number and see!
oaks Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 I don't always leave a message the first time, because I prefer talking to people than to machines, but if I get through to voicemail the second time then I'll leave a message (as she could be deliberately letting the call go through to the voicemail if she doesn't recognise the number). If you're curious enough about it to start this thread then put the same amount of energy in to calling the number back! or send a text message. It might not be the guy you gave your number to... so bear that in mind when you write your message!
Emilia Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 there are no rules about leaving a voicemail at all, if you can't handle dialing a number you don't know then how will you manage leaving your flat to meet him for a date?
oldguy Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 I also think you should rethink your policy. If I try calling someone 2 or 3 times & can't reach them I'd move on. If I'm calling someone I don't know I'm not likely to just leave a message because I just don't know what your living arrangements are, or if I got the right number. Does your answering msg id you or is it one of those, "hi, leave a msg"?
Author sabienne Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 I don't always leave a message the first time, because I prefer talking to people than to machines, but if I get through to voicemail the second time then I'll leave a message (as she could be deliberately letting the call go through to the voicemail if she doesn't recognise the number). If you're curious enough about it to start this thread then put the same amount of energy in to calling the number back! or send a text message. It might not be the guy you gave your number to... so bear that in mind when you write your message! I agree 100% about the calling second time, leave a message thing. I personally don't put numbers I don't know through, but I have friends who do. I genuinely missed both the calls though - I know, he doesn't know that. Just shedding some more light on the situation. I am 99% certain it is he who is calling - I dont give my number out much and I haven't given it to anyone at all lately. I think I will call it back tomorrow morning though. Or at least shoot a text. Thanks for the advice!
Author sabienne Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 there are no rules about leaving a voicemail at all, if you can't handle dialing a number you don't know then how will you manage leaving your flat to meet him for a date? Oh, and this is just rude and uncalled for.
Author sabienne Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 I also think you should rethink your policy. If I try calling someone 2 or 3 times & can't reach them I'd move on. If I'm calling someone I don't know I'm not likely to just leave a message because I just don't know what your living arrangements are, or if I got the right number. Does your answering msg id you or is it one of those, "hi, leave a msg"? It IDs me very clearly. And it's my cell, so no concern about living arrangements there. I would agree with you if it was a home phone or one of those generic voicemails, but when it opens with "hi, this is (name)" which it does...?
oldguy Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 It IDs me very clearly. And it's my cell, so no concern about living arrangements there. I would agree with you if it was a home phone or one of those generic voicemails, but when it opens with "hi, this is (name)" which it does...? So, if you didn't want to talk to him when does it stop being persistent or him being interested & viewing his as a stalker. Thats why I'm making 2 maybe 3 calls and figure the girl isn't interested & move on, POF
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