ThatBwoii Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 ok, so basically if you read the other threads i made about this the story was that she went out to a house party and basically met somebody else, split up with me and got with him 1 day after,we were togther for 2 years and we were very close, at first i begge andpleaded, but then i came to LS and learned how to deal with the situation. So i started NC and started getting on with mylife, 2 weeks later she phones me and act's like were friends? and tells me about him n all this stuff, i didnt get upset (not down the phone anyway) i started to tell her about all the things i had been doing, like quit smoking, started boxing, working alot more, had a new car etc an she started to seem very upset, she told me that my life was better without he so it seems, i didnt deny it because it is actaully better. now the other guy is getting very pranoid and keeps asking her if she has cheated and all this other stuff. he is causing trouble and making the break up harder for me. after the phone conversation about 3 days ago i started no contact again, today she comes on msn (which im hardly ever on) and starts going mad at me asaying that i have hacke her facebook account and that she is going to call the police? i just simply told her not to talk to me and stop causing trouble. i havent spoken to her since then.. What the hell is going on??
Kodo Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Sounds to me like she's realised she made a bad mistake. Good on you for doing all those things to improve yourself. i didnt get upset (not down the phone anyway) What the hell is going on?? I love this part especially. I can read this, never look back on your post, and know that you'll be alright.
Author ThatBwoii Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 i also know that she has been bad-mouthing me to her friends and family, as they all hate me now. her new boyfriend is clinging on to her like there is no tommorow, i know that she dosent think much off him. I think that she actually WANTS me to plead with her, hence why she is making contact but only to have a go at me...
Kodo Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 i also know that she has been bad-mouthing me to her friends and family, as they all hate me now. her new boyfriend is clinging on to her like there is no tommorow, i know that she dosent think much off him. I think that she actually WANTS me to plead with her, hence why she is making contact but only to have a go at me... Quite possibly. And if her friends and family are stupid enough not to take a neutral stance in this (unless of course you treated her very very seriously super bad) then they are fools.
vsmini Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 She sounds like an immature drama queen. She breaks up with you then calls to gush about things and when she finds out you're not miserable with out her she throws a tantrum. talk about low self-esteem. You're right to go no contact. Keep up with your new and improved life and leave this girl in the dust. She has to learn her lesson the hard way.
Graceful Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 What's wrong with her? She's jerking you around for her own benefit. Can't be happy unless she thinks you're miserable. Loves and thrives on attention. When you were pleading and begging she felt in control, and still got to push your buttons and reject you. Plenty of satisfaction for her, and nothing but a big bruise on your ego, right? When you went NC, she lost control. She lost your attention, she lost the adoration. She broke up with you, yet still wanted to know you were there for a back up plan. But you weren't. You disappeared finally (good for you), and she had to nose her way back in to regain control. She's a selfish, insecure, attention-seeking, pathetic, immature drama queen. She's transparent. We can see right through her. She's scrambling in her own dysfunction, is frustrated and upset and wants to project and pass that on to you. But guess what? You're not falling for it. What else is there to know? Cut her out of your life. Do not respond, not even with one word. Let her stew in her own misery with the idiot she's now dating. He sounds like an idiot to me for putting up with her and for dating someone he doesn't even trust. Hope they'll be very happy together, right? Sounds like fun. You're improving yourself, but best of all, you're leaving her behind. Now you can see how she was holding you back; you've broken free. Keep it that way. ok, so basically if you read the other threads i made about this the story was that she went out to a house party and basically met somebody else, split up with me and got with him 1 day after,we were togther for 2 years and we were very close, at first i begge andpleaded, but then i came to LS and learned how to deal with the situation. So i started NC and started getting on with mylife, 2 weeks later she phones me and act's like were friends? and tells me about him n all this stuff, i didnt get upset (not down the phone anyway) i started to tell her about all the things i had been doing, like quit smoking, started boxing, working alot more, had a new car etc an she started to seem very upset, she told me that my life was better without he so it seems, i didnt deny it because it is actaully better. now the other guy is getting very pranoid and keeps asking her if she has cheated and all this other stuff. he is causing trouble and making the break up harder for me. after the phone conversation about 3 days ago i started no contact again, today she comes on msn (which im hardly ever on) and starts going mad at me asaying that i have hacke her facebook account and that she is going to call the police? i just simply told her not to talk to me and stop causing trouble. i havent spoken to her since then.. What the hell is going on??
confused1989 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Sounds like my situation, went out with my ex for almost 2 years and got with a guy not long afterwards although it was a month or two. She started texting me and acting like we were friends too after a few weeks after I told her that I wasn't looking for that and if she was going to contact me she shouldn't expect a reply. When you said you think she wants you to plead for her I can defintely understand and relate to that. My ex actually told me straight up that she wanted me to fight for her and said the reason why she lost interest in me was because I wasn't trying hard enough (believe me, I was trying hard enough) so she led me to believe that if I chased her I'd win her back and I did all of that and all she did was get more egotistical than she already was and now she has a new guy to make new memories with, left me behind in the dust and looks down on me like there's no tomorrow. My ex is like yours and would love to see me be miserable. That's why when we were breaking up and she found out that I had some good luck with school and have some good things planned for my future she threw a tantrum too. All I can say is keep doing what you're doing. For you to make all those changes and progress in a short time is awesome news! And take the advice of others that you've gotten here on your thread! I fully agree with Graceful and she's offered sound advice to many here on this forum so you should definitely consider what her and the others have to say. Good luck!
Kodo Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 My ex too was like this the first time. Now the second time, it's just the hook ups and just pure cold when we talk. :/ Kind of liked it better the first time in a pathetic twisted way.
Author ThatBwoii Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 Well, i dont know what to do but move forward, i know for a fact that if we was to get back togther it would be so much worse, and i would loose so much self-asteem doing so, so i definatly think that NC is the way to go, i would never get back with her, no matter what she does, she could send me flowers, sing to my windows, i dont give a ****. everybody tells me i could do better, but its not even about that, its about me being better, i could have a girl right now if i wanted but i know that it would make it ten times worse than it already is, she struggles so much with jealousy and wont let me go without destroying me first. (which she has already done and i got over it) so what is left really? her trying to hurt me for attention?, i dont care anymore, i have more interesting things to do with my times than argue with her. She is pathetic in her own way and i think its time i saw her for what she really is. a backstabber, a attention seeker. I have never had people like that in my life and im not about to start now. Thankyou for all the posts. I Appreciate it
betterdeal Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Life's too short to spend it living in someone else's neurosis. (Said to me by my ex!)
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