Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Well yesterday NC was broken between me and my ex down to a few things but for the first time it didn't matter to me. I wasn't chasing or anything. She told me she had started dating someone. I replied that is good as long as you are happy I am. (was this right reply) T then because I had been away to ibiza she kept pestering me if I had met any girls or done anything with any girls. I tried to ignore these txts but she kept pestering me so just replied saying this does not matter and wont help nothing. Then she replied i miss you and all that. I just replied saying this is the way it is at moment between us and just told her to be happy. Have I done the right thing?
wilsonx Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Im now a strong advocate of NC no matter what... shes fishing, if she has something to say to you, let her say it in person, if not, its not worth replying unless you have kids Dont believe me... dumpers are messed up.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t281684/ I have never felt so betrayed in my entire life
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 Cool I am going back to no contact now anyhow!!
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 One thing I will say I didnt care really that she said she was dating another guy it nothing to do with me now.
wilsonx Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Then dont respond if it has nothing to do with another guy... delete her number/pictures/emails/texts/facebook/myspace and go out and do things
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 Yeah I am mate got another holiday booked for july with the lads and few other things to do with the lads it all about myself now!! She has tried to re-add me on facebook and that don't know why? Like I say the no contact is back on and I am just looking forward to things I got planned!!
shook187 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 i think if you feel hurt by her being with another man you should've told her that, because that may have ignighted the flame. but in your defense and from the stories i read on here she was probably just looking to put 1 last nail in your coffin. we all assume we knows these girls like the back of our hand. but at the end of the day we're all as lost as eachother because people change and people don't listen to requests like me. just gotta keep on keeping on and look at the downsides to the relationship just like she is.
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 Yeah wasnt nice to hear that she has started dating again but it didnt hurt either. If that is what she wants to do then I respect that I still don't think she knows what is going on in her head at moment. I am much more positive now and don't want anything to stand in my way I aint ready to date again yet I know that so I am just enjoying myself with my mates which is helping loads.
Chi townD Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 It's probably why she was pestering you about seeing other girls. She was feeling guilty about moving on if you weren't. It sounds like she desperately wants to put you in the friend zone. Stay NC.
vsmini Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 i think if you feel hurt by her being with another man you should've told her that, because that may have ignighted the flame. Uhhh yea - and unleashed more drama. Bad advice.
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 Yeah you are right definatly wans to put me in friend bracket and hold on to me just in case something goes wrong just from last few txts she has been sending lol I am glad I am alot stronger now time to initiate no contact again!!
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