kleenex123 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 He holds my past against me. The past was that i've went clubbing once(my only once) and got drunk. And on the way out, two of my boy friends held me to stand up because i tripped and fell down. Therefore there were two pictures, one of which, a pic which looked like i was enjoying myself, dancing; and the other one, of the two boys holding me up - my arms on their shoulder and their hands round my waist. But it was merely helping me to stand up. It isn't anything to do with horniness. We're traditional asians and we don't do physical contacts with opposite sex. He feels that i've broken his trust. But i did not cheat on him or anything. He has been holding that against me since last year. For details of the story it's here : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t281507/ We're in a long distance relationship now he's studying in US and next year i'm going to go over for him. Pursue tertiary education there. Should i? I'm so afraid that by then he can't get over it still and holds it against me. I feel that if he doesn't get over it then it's the end of the relationship.. I really need advices. THanks!
Mauschen Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Everyone makes mistakes, and if this is in your past, there is nothing you can do to change it. If he can't let it go and holds it against you, think about how he might react in the future if you ever do something he doesn't like! Forgiveness is an essential part of a relationship, and respect is also an essential part of a relationship. It sounds like he does not respect you or trust you. Would it be possible for you to find someone who was raised in similar circumstances as you? Was he raised in the US? Where were you raised? Culture can be an important part of a relationship. I have one Indian friend who was raised in the US and she married an Indian man who was raised in India. Culturally, they are worlds apart and have had many problems adjusting to life together. After 5 years, things are getting better for them. But, in my opinion, she would have had it much easier if she had chosen an Indian man who was also raised in the US.
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