irc333 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 The title says it all, but I was wondering if you aren't one of those ladies, perhaps you have a friend or someone that's like this? Or know of someone? Are women actually annoyed by being approached by men they are NOT interested in? I had a similar event of a friend that brought a co-worker to one of our social circles. I knew this female friend for a while, but she decided to bring some female, single co-workers. She introduced them around. Some men were attempting to engage conversation with these new ladies to our social circle. They were seriously turned off by the physical appearance of these men, and said aloud, "We're going to <name of a more ritzy bar/lounge in a more lucrative part of town> to see if we can find some rich guys there." Then they promptly left. And laughed loudly and left...of course alchohol made them "blurt", but never the less, my female friend was mortified and apologized for them....after all, they weren't really friends but her co-workers. If you have any stories like this, feel free to post them here.
dangerstranger Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Depends on the situation and the manner in which they approach. I've been out having dinner with gf's trying to catch up, just enjoying conversation and been bothered when guy after guy will come over to the table and either pull up a chair or interrupt our conversation. Sometimes you just want to enjoy an evening out without being bothered. If you're in a social setting you have to expect it's going to happen. I would never act the way those girls did, that's just plain rude.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Are women actually annoyed by being approached by men they are NOT interested in? All people (not just women) get annoyed at being approached by unattractive members of the opposite sex. Don't tell me you've never run away after being hit on by a fat girl?
Lilmisus Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 All people (not just women) get annoyed at being approached by unattractive members of the opposite sex. Don't tell me you've never run away after being hit on by a fat girl? I think I agree with this. I think that most people to some extent get annoyed. Most are too classy to show being annoyed though, and probably wouldn't do something like that. I have been guilty of being incredibly rude to someone who wasn't attractive enough for my taste who have come up to talk to me..not to the extent of those chicks..but to an extent to where I wasn't proud of myself afterward. I have gotten better though...but a few of my friends are just as bad (if not worse) than the girls you mentioned. Once, a couple of bigger (and pretty unattractive guys) were hitting on a friend and me at a bar, and when they were standing there talking amongst themselves, she loudly started saying "so yeah, I really need to find myself a hot medic...like, really hot. I'm thinking JC, but I don't know about him, what do you think?" And went on and on about how she wanted a hot guy..and kept ignoring and giving the two guys the cold shoulder, like they were the scum of the earth. When they tried talking to us..I was the only one who'd talk back to them, and tried to be friendly enough (without leading them on) for the both of us. It made me ashamed to call her my friend right then. No one should ever treat someone like they're scum, no matter what they look like.
collegeguy_24 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Personally if a woman acts that rude as stated above, I would call them on it. Nothing like a little embarrassment to ruin a hot womans evening:) One time I was hanging out with a guy friend of mine, he is pretty good looking. Well he encouraged me to try and talk to these two hot ladies, to help me get over my break up and shyness. I didn't go in there expecting anything, neither did he, but it was an exercise to help me get over my ex and my shyness. They were rude to me because I wasn't good looking enough. He was watching, and listening. after they blew me off rudely I went to take a leak in the restroom, and one of the women actually approached him. I came out just in time to hear him tell the women that he is my friend, he heard every word, and no, he wasn't interested in seeing an rude b!tch. I lol'd.
zlatnapolja Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 The title says it all, but I was wondering if you aren't one of those ladies, perhaps you have a friend or someone that's like this? Or know of someone? Are women actually annoyed by being approached by men they are NOT interested in? I had a similar event of a friend that brought a co-worker to one of our social circles. I knew this female friend for a while, but she decided to bring some female, single co-workers. She introduced them around. Some men were attempting to engage conversation with these new ladies to our social circle. They were seriously turned off by the physical appearance of these men, and said aloud, "We're going to <name of a more ritzy bar/lounge in a more lucrative part of town> to see if we can find some rich guys there." Then they promptly left. And laughed loudly and left...of course alchohol made them "blurt", but never the less, my female friend was mortified and apologized for them....after all, they weren't really friends but her co-workers. If you have any stories like this, feel free to post them here. If a men approaches you without any further 'goals', it's usualy okay, especialy in you're situation. I mean it was a gathering of people who knew each other allready or someone they knew, knew someone else. But if a regular guy approaches you, he usually wants 1 thing and its just rude to bother people with your sexdrive.
Lilmisus Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Personally if a woman acts that rude as stated above, I would call them on it. Nothing like a little embarrassment to ruin a hot womans evening:) One time I was hanging out with a guy friend of mine, he is pretty good looking. Well he encouraged me to try and talk to these two hot ladies, to help me get over my break up and shyness. I didn't go in there expecting anything, neither did he, but it was an exercise to help me get over my ex and my shyness. They were rude to me because I wasn't good looking enough. He was watching, and listening. after they blew me off rudely I went to take a leak in the restroom, and one of the women actually approached him. I came out just in time to hear him tell the women that he is my friend, he heard every word, and no, he wasn't interested in seeing an rude b!tch. I lol'd. You really have a great friend there.
Woggle Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Personally if a woman acts that rude as stated above, I would call them on it. Nothing like a little embarrassment to ruin a hot womans evening:) One time I was hanging out with a guy friend of mine, he is pretty good looking. Well he encouraged me to try and talk to these two hot ladies, to help me get over my break up and shyness. I didn't go in there expecting anything, neither did he, but it was an exercise to help me get over my ex and my shyness. They were rude to me because I wasn't good looking enough. He was watching, and listening. after they blew me off rudely I went to take a leak in the restroom, and one of the women actually approached him. I came out just in time to hear him tell the women that he is my friend, he heard every word, and no, he wasn't interested in seeing an rude b!tch. I lol'd. This reminds me of a situation where I once witnessed a woman embarrass a guy in front of a whole bar. She came up to me shortly afterwards and I told her that I wasn't interested in slumming that night.
collegeguy_24 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 This reminds me of a situation where I once witnessed a woman embarrass a guy in front of a whole bar. She came up to me shortly afterwards and I told her that I wasn't interested in slumming that night. Now thats karma!
zlatnapolja Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 This reminds me of a situation where I once witnessed a woman embarrass a guy in front of a whole bar. She came up to me shortly afterwards and I told her that I wasn't interested in slumming that night. hehehe, love that, thats great! You know, I'm not single, but if I were: I think that if a guy approaches you in a respectful way, trying to make you feel comfortable, being interested, not having ulterior motives etc than its nice if a guy comes up to you, doesn't matter what you look like. Woman like company. Women just dont like it when guys only talk to them because they want to have sex. You have to know someone, before even thinking of going there..
Cracker Jack Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 This is one of the reasons why most guys are afraid to approach women. Most just assume she'll be annoyed at their approach or annoyed at the fact that it's not someone she's attracted to doing the approaching. You never know how she's going to react. Not that it's a legitimate excuse to never try, but damn...
SteveC80 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 They are,women are pretty brutal and probably more shallow then men when it comes to this type of stuff It became a running joke with me and my friend that years ago we tried an experiment,at the time i was in my prime doing well wit the ladies and he was self admittedly not very good looking, hed always harshly get rejected by women just for approaching We tried the exact same lines and approaches on the same women pretending we werent together and approached at different times , some funny some harsh some whatever Hed get screamed at or told hes creepy id come in and use the same lines and get numbers:laugh:
Dust Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 You’ll annoy some people just by living. I could care less who I annoy as long as I respect myself.
Yamaha Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 It's one of the perks of being a man, approaching a woman you find attractive. I do remember a gal at my apartment complex once complaining some guy at the country bar she attended approached her for a dance and she was mad. That he would even think she would be interested in him was appalling. Can we say insecure........
mr.dream merchant Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Hahah, women wouldn't act like this is more men would just tell a bitch like it is. Excuse the language but if a woman rudely spoke to me after I politely approached her? "Lookey here bitch, **** your mind. And tighten up, your muffin top is showing. Cheers."
SteveC80 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Hahah, women wouldn't act like this is more men would just tell a bitch like it is. Excuse the language but if a woman rudely spoke to me after I politely approached her? "Lookey here bitch, **** your mind. And tighten up, your muffin top is showing. Cheers." That's the problem women are never called out on their ***** because Men are so thirsty for vagina that they continue to pander to these women and let em get away with things Its no different then having a kid and never disciplining him and beign shocked he or she becomes a spoiled entitled brat..
mr.dream merchant Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 That's the problem women are never called out on their ***** because Men are so thirsty for vagina that they continue to pander to these women and let em get away with things Its no different then having a kid and never disciplining him and beign shocked he or she becomes a spoiled entitled brat.. Right? The ****s up with all these thirsty ass dudes out here. They're the main reason all these women get away with being a bitch. I'm pretty quick to tell a bird like it is man. Way I look at it, women outnumber us several to one. What one chick won't do others will, statistically speaking. Lol, **** all that though. Get money and be happy. I said it before and I'll say it again. The key to happiness in this feminazi era is living your life doing what YOU want, not living to please all these wannabe princesses running around here with tramp stamps and STD's. It's funny they're so stuck up when most of them are sluts anyways. **** makes me roflmfao.
sydneysider1978 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Ouch, this thread seems to have touched a nerve! As long as a guy approaches politely, I would be flattered, not annoyed at all. I know it takes a lot of guts to approach someone. If I wasn't interested, I would decline / escape politely. If the guy carries on badgering me or is a d#ck when I politely try to escape, this does make me angry.
J200 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Yes, but that's cause I'm anti social and general and don't enjoy meeting people too much (men OR women). I don't want to date; I want to be left alone.
Emilia Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 To answer the original question: it very much depends on how he approaches me. If he is friendly then I don't mind a chat at all because I'm an outgoing person, if he is creepy then I do
ASG Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 For me it depends on whether he's interrupting or not. I mostly go out with friends. If a guy comes to me while I'm talking to my friends, I won't give him the time of day. If he approaches me while I'm alone (getting a drink, for instance), then I'll have a polite chat and walk away, back to my friends. I don't get annoyed because they're unattractive. I get annoyed because they're interrupting! Or if they're too pushy.
iris219 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 To answer the original question: it very much depends on how he approaches me. If he is friendly then I don't mind a chat at all because I'm an outgoing person, if he is creepy then I do ^This. I don’t mind if a guy I’m not attracted to approaches me in order to have an interesting conversation with me. If I’m interested in the conversation, it’s all good. I don’t have to want to sleep with a man to talk to him. However, if a man approaches me in a disrespectful manner or is unsubtle about hitting on me when I’m clearly not interested in taking it there, then, no, I do not like this at all and will shut it down quickly.
Shuffty Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Just because a woman isn't interested doesn't make her a b*tch. Yeah, there are ways of telling someone to leave you alone, but it's a catch 22 situation - be too forceful and upfront and you get called a b*tch - and drunken men can get aggressive when their pride's hurt, be too subtle/nice and (as Chandler says) they start thinking 'Finally! Someone who wants to sleep with me!' We can't win! I used to work as a night receptionist in a hotel that was attached to a pub with glass doors (sigh), so when it got to about eleven o'clock, drunken blokes would spot me through the window, alone, not looking busy enough (clearly) and would come through to chat me up. Personally, I don't think I'm bad looking, but I could have been a hog for all they cared - I was just a girl on my own and I couldn't get away - easy prey. Because I'm waaaay too polite, I'd end up listening to their drunken ramblings for HOURS, whilst they really obviously rate my rack. It's pretty insulting. I think a big problem is a man's inability to read signals, take hints, and understand body language, it leads to women getting sick of being nice and having to make their feelings clear - not always in the nicest way. Perhaps I'm crediting men with too much intelligence (sorry!) to begin with and I need to communicate better. Usually have an agreement with my sister that we 'rescue' each other if needs be, but I once told a bloke I was a lesbian and my friend was my partner - yeah, it didn't work at all, he just liked that more and assumed that we would want a threeway with him, ick. Men!
ScreamingTrees Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 ^This. I don’t mind if a guy I’m not attracted to approaches me in order to have an interesting conversation with me. If I’m interested in the conversation, it’s all good. I don’t have to want to sleep with a man to talk to him. However, if a man approaches me in a disrespectful manner or is unsubtle about hitting on me when I’m clearly not interested in taking it there, then, no, I do not like this at all and will shut it down quickly. So, does this apply to any dude, or just the unattractive ones? God forbid any of them are trying to be straightforward about their attraction to you and possibly want to get to know you.. Would you rather attract the dudes that try to "friend" you to get closer to you and make moves later?
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