superchiefs Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Ok, my ex emailed me about how lonely she was and out of a moment of weakness, I called her number, it rang once and then went to voice mail. So she could have either had her phone turned off or she could have clicked it over. I didnt leave a message. Does this count as breaking NC?
Kodo Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Ok, my ex emailed me about how lonely she was and out of a moment of weakness, I called her number, it rang once and then went to voice mail. So she could have either had her phone turned off or she could have clicked it over. I didnt leave a message. Does this count as breaking NC? If it rang and clicked it over, sounds like she ignored the call. Pathetic. It does count as breaking NC though. But don't beat yourself up over it. When people say you're now back at square one I think that's unfair. This is a once off weak moment. Gota take small steps before you take big ones. Sometimes you trip. But just keep walking forward.
sun_moon Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 So you broke NC, big deal, its ok, moving on. Your dignity is still in tact and that is what counts. Like Kodo said, dont beat yourself up for it. In a way, its serves as a reminder that going to her is not going to do you any good.
Author superchiefs Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 Thanks guys for the support. I hate restarting my NC clock yet again.
shook187 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 look don't worry. I broke nc yesterday because she took 5 days to reply and still said 'our emotions are still very up and down' I couldn't resist. Then she tortured me by said its for the best. I still think with strong nc there is a chance of a revival.. Wait for a reply from her, if she wants you bad enough she will be at your front door.
ItsRainingAgain Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Thanks guys for the support. I hate restarting my NC clock yet again. You shouldn't worry at all....she is the one that contacted you! I only wish my (ex) boyfriend that dumped me out of the blue with no reason would reach out to me...I think in your case.... if the dumper (her) contacts the dumpee (you) you can break the NC rule....it's when the dumper doesn't,,, you should keep the NC rule. But then again I don't know the whole story. Good luck. Stay strong.
radiodarcy Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 yeah. but i wouldnt call it a break, just a fissure. lol. i mean -- you didn't talk to her and exchange information about what you both had been up to since the break up. and to be fair - - she was the one who initiated contact. so - - no real harm done. i'm at 3 months NC but i think the reason i've been able to stick to NC this long is because my ex hasn't reached out to me. it does suck to be ignored though but not hearing from him makes it much easier to stick to NC
vsmini Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Technically you broke NC - next time don't reach out to her at all. My NC policy is super strict No calls, texts, emails No asking mutual friends how he is doing and if they bring him up I find a reason to change subject or leave the group Blocking any potential emails on Gmail. Cut.them.out.
geegirl Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 NC means exactly that, NO CONTACT. No text, call, call from blocked number, email, facebook, smoke signal...nothing. NC is set in place to put you first. It's implemented because YOU want to heal and you want to detach yourself from a toxic or emotionally unhealthy situation. Until you decide to put you first, you'll keep on stumbling. So you broke it/got a little weak. Get back up again and try to stick to it. There's going to come a time when you're going to realize that breaking NC is just not worth it.
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