jamrah Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Twelve months on from the breakup...a day of infamy in my life...thats for sure. I guess after 6 years together she got bored and tired of the fighting. She left for a man 13 years her senior. It has taken me a year...but...i forgive her. All I ever wanted was for her to come back...she didn't...I saw her recently and she hugged me and kissed me and told me she loved me...then she said goodbye...we don't speak or facebook or anything like that. It takes a lot of time and sadness and effort to come to such a point...Basically my point is...and it does make me sad...that when they leave, they don't come back...when its over its over...you have to just try and work through it...I know they are special, and you love them...but you have got to...as the beatles say...let it be...for me: friends and reading and drinking and drums and playstation and new job and family and dog got me through...but i cannot recommend enough the power of running...join a gym, get on the treadmill, and see how good you feel after...then go for jacuzzi and sauna and steamroom...and if u can try yoga...with regards to your ex...NC is your friend...it is maybe the most powerful weapon in your arsenal...at first the inertia is immense, then slowly you start moving...you start getting your own life back...slowly at first but you are moving...given a little time you are moving at a nice pace...you realise you are in control...use NC...definitely try and have sex with people but dont obsess...try and keep optimistic and allow nature and fate to guide you...try not to worry...a piece of you will always love or favour your ex, its natural...in the end tho, you will survive and get through this...i promise....x
Karala Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Thanks, that was uplifting :] Have you found new love, or wanted to?
brokendreamz Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Thanks for coming back and sharing that with us. I hope I will be able to do the same some day. I'm doing most of the things you suggest... Just trying to find some of that sex you speak of!!!
Adi Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Hey good post, when i read it i thought how funny life is remeber the first happy months/years all the dreams you think you will be in love forever. Your dead right NC is the only way im a year in now but i still get bad days but its funny over the past 12 months i have met some amazing people and do some crazy things now i just do gym work and mates not that asked about being with anyone. If anyone would like too know if they are really over there ex, is when you hope they are happy.
Author jamrah Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 karala, i would love to find new love, but so far, not happening...i'm not going to lie to you, i would love to find somebody...but...i got to keep moving...and so do you.x unfortunately guys this is not a catch 22 situation...this is more a sink or swim, eat or be eaten type thing...u have no choice...be strong...ride the sadness...trust yourself more...take chances if you have too...but start moving...budda said 'every great journey starts with one step'...make sure that step is forward...its hard, trust me, i know...but u have to try!!
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