BayDavis Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 My ex girlfriend broke up with me because she "didnt want a relationship with anyone and needed to find herself". So after a couple of weeks we started hanging out as friends again, but it wasnt like we were friends. It was like we were still together because we did everything a couple would do. Whenever we hung out, we hooked up but she would continue to say she doesnt want a relationship with anyone. I was always crazy about her and would do anything for her. I eventually told her that I didnt want to be friends anymore bc it was confusing and hurting me. A couple days later i got a call from a buddy telling me to stop talking to her and that shes been hooking up with another guy for a while. I didnt believe it bc of what my ex was saying, but i asked her anyway. She of course denied it and got really defensive/ angery that people were "making stuff up". So this past weekend I saw my ex and gave her a ride home and she forgot her phone in my car. I looked in her phone and what i saw crushed me. It was obvious that she was sleeping with this guy and had been hooking up with him for some time. The stuff he was saying to my ex seemed like they were serious. I shouldnt have looked but glad i know the truth. we've been broken up for a little less than 2 months from a 2 year relationship and I was sleeping with her for the past 5 weeks. Throughout that time i was being lied to, she said she loved me, all while she was hooking up with someone else. I never did anything to deserve this. she never told me why she was stringing me along. it sucks. Why couldnt she have just told me what's up so i could move on and leave her alone? I dont even know why we broke up because her reason of "being alone" obviously wasnt true. Why do you think she lied to me for so long? Why did she hook up with me and say she loved me? Is she just scared of being alone? because that's why she said she didnt want to be with. what should i do now? this whole thing sucks and makes me think she never truly loved me. thanks for the support everyone.
ilovedhim Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 She sounds really selfish. And very confused. Now that you have the proof she's with someone else balls in your court. Stop allowing her to string you along. The best way to do this is no contact. The way I see it is if soemone loves you they're not going to be with others.
Author BayDavis Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 The way i feel is that if she ever truly loved me she wouldnt have done this or acted that way. she wanted to stay friends, but not act like a friend at all. When we were messing around after the break up she told me please not rub another relationship in her face and that she couldnt handle seeing me with someone else. what a joke. i'm just gonna go no contact and date again. this whole thing just really sucks and is hard getting thoughts of her out of my mind.
Fedor Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Sounds like she is really immature. She probably didnt want to let go of what you two had but yet wanted to move on at the same time. Women are sneaky sometimes and she took advantage of your love for her. To be honest, you shouldnt have become intimate because she clearly wasnt willing to be 100% with you. That was a mistake and I think I crossed that line today. I hope the best for you.
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