ramram Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Relationship Advise: Girl cheated on my but it was half my fault... Here's the scoop. My girl slept with anohter guy but doesn't remember a thing, just waking up next to him in my roommates bed (it wasn't my roommate). THE BEGINNING: We were having a party at my apt. for one of my roommates 21st b-day. Everyone got wasted. Especially me. I got so drunk that I started punching holes in the wall for some reason I'm not sure about,My girl got scared and ran into my roommates room, across the little hallway we have. I didn't throw punches at her, or threatened her. I would never do that. She just got scared becasue I'm never that angry and anything, I'm usually a cool guy. But I started to hypervventalate and eventually fell asleep. I woke up in my bed with her standing and watching over me. She said she woke up in my roommates bed with another guy and he just tried to kiss her when she woke up. I asked if they kissed, she said "no". And she said she just slept the whole night. I believed her becaue I was too shocked at the holes in the wall that I made. THE MIDDLE: Two weeks later I started asking more questions. She said she didn't remember anything besides sleeping. Then I asked my rooommates what happened that night (took this long to ask because I was too embarrased at my tantrum I had that night). They said that she was in the other room with a guy, ans the door was locked. They were in the room for hours. I then felt sick. I asked her again and again what she rememebers, she said she doesn't rememebr "a thing", "Nothing". Then I asked the guy who she was in the room with. He told me he doesn't remember a lot but he's "pretty sure they had sex and she blew him"... I then showed my girl this and she started to cry. This is what she told me... She said she was suspesious that it might have happened when she woke up. She doesn't rememeber a thing but when she woke up to pee she felt like she had sex that night. She scrubbed herself as hard as she could and called a friend for advise. She didn't remember a thing but she felt sick and her vagina was sore. Her cloths were on and so was his. She was under the blankets when she woke and he was over. She remembers the door being open everytime she woke that night. She even went as far as me taking her to the emergency room later that day after the party, so that she could get the "day after pill", Of course she told me it was for something ele, her being sick. THE END: I don't know what to do. I forgave her, told her it wasn't her fault and that we are all humans, we make mistakes. Right now it's all that I think about, I can't get it out of my head. Writing about it like this is helping a little, But I still can't fathum that she was with another guy, another guy was inside her, and that anohter guys penus was in her mouth. I'm pretty sure that she thought it was me, unconsiouly, and that's why she did what she did. She doesn't rememeber a thing and the guy doesn't remember all that much. I feel numb and I can't eat. I'm sick to my stomach and I don't know how to feel, I forgave her so that she wouldnt't feel as bad as she did. She feels viloated and can't understand why she doesn't rememebr anything. I feel sad and depressed but I have to be strong for her, even thought I feel cheated on and betrayed she feels the sae in herself. I really like her and I can even go as far as saying I Love Her, But this is going to be a true challenge to our relationship. It's all I'm thinking about now and I need support, input from another's perspective to help get my mind on ease of things. She's all I have and I'm all she has... If I never punched holes in the wall, she never would have been scared of me, she never would have went in my roommates room, We would have slept in my bed that night, We would have had sex probably....
TaraMaiden Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 And if you hadn't been drunk - none of this would have happened - including the fists through the wall. People get really stupid when they're drunk, and make stupid decisions - but it's not the drink's fault. It's the fault of the stupid people. I'm afraid I have no sympathy for people who get themselves so blind-stupid drunk that they don't know which way is up. None.
Layzie89 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 If she was sober enough to go into the other guy's room while you were throwing a fit to get away from you, she was surely conscious and aware enough to know that it was NOT you in the room with her, and that she was having sex with another guy instead of you. Don't fall for her lies or try and put the blame on yourself. Cheating is cheating, regardless of the circumstances. My advice is to leave her. By taking her back and being so sentimental about the whole issue towards her, you're setting yourself up for further heartbreak down the road. She cheated, and now she knows how easy she can get off the hook afterwards...it's bound to happen again sooner or later. Might want to get a new roommate as well. One who respects you and your relationship and has some sense of morale in him.
guccimane99 Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Well i would have to agree with everyone on here. Once and cheater always a cheater, and if she made u get the pill with her she must have known. It also doesnt matter what you did it never give someone the right to cheat on u. Drop this girl like its hot and on to the next one.
LiaPrincess Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 I would say it's best to end the relationship. If this was true and she doesn't remember anything then wouldn't waking up with someone else having sex with you be considered rape? I think have a hard time believing that she doesn't remember what happened because having sex with someone else is definitely not an act you can forget about it.
TaraMaiden Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Might want to get a new roommate as well. One who respects you and your relationship and has some sense of morale in him. Agree with all of your post. But this. It wasn't his roommate.....just the roommate's bed....
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