donnamaybe Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 lol so you would rather come here and take sides than give input on how pathetic a person has to be to not confront her friend with her problem that she may be distancing her, that she would rather unload to a group of broken people on the interwebs while posting about being butthurt as a 3rd party victim because of her friends mishaps with some fellow when its more likely that the OP is just pathetic and her friend is sick and tired of her and is distancing from her instead of coming telling op that shes sick of her bullcrap but ok if you would rather do that please go :lmao:yes
dale_gribble Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Um... you say you decided on carrying on a "legitimate" relationship with someone who was involved in an EA with you, only to find out she got into another affair with someone else. You put yourself in this position in the first place smart guy. You can't trust a cheater- PERIOD. I think the karma bus made a stop at you house for a little ride. Unbelievable... what did you expect.
Author freestyle Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 Um... you say you decided on carrying on a "legitimate" relationship with someone who was involved in an EA with you, only to find out she got into another affair with someone else. You put yourself in this position in the first place smart guy. You can't trust a cheater- PERIOD. I think the karma bus made a stop at you house for a little ride. Unbelievable... what did you expect. (Sigh.....) Once again--this thread is about FRIENDSHIP being damaged by infidelity-related dishonesty. Once again, I am NOT a guy. I am a heterosexual woman whose best female friend flaked out on me, because SHE was being squirrelly behind the scenes, trying to seduce a mutual married friend. There was no EA on my part. Had you actually read the thread, before making a judgment, you would be up to speed..........You can miss a lot if you just skim through. I think you're the third poster to just presume that I'm a jilted dude with sour grapes........Open mouth, insert foot.......... Some people jump to conclusions---I think you pole-vaulted to an assumption. Without knowing the FACTS. I'm a little irritated, because I took the time to read YOUR story, & my heart went out to you---I know what betrayal feels like.....I've been betrayed romantically, & I also feel betrayed by my former best girlfriend keeping the truth from me about what she was getting into.She knew I would disapprove, and she couldn't face me. So she villified ME.It's a different kind of betrayal---but still very painful, nonetheless. (and THAT'S what this entire thread was about--non-romantic relationships ALSO being affected by the deception surrounding infidelity) .....So I don't appreciate you bashing me as if I did something wrong---when you obviously didn't read the thread. I get that you're hurting badly right now, I really do---and I'm sorry for what you've been through-- but it doesn't excuse you lashing out blindly. If you knew my posting history here, and my backstory---I'm one of the posters who's very compassionate and kind. So please pay a little closer attention next time, thanks.
rafallus Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I don't think infidelity destroyed friendship, in the end she wasn't your friend at all. I had similar situation when **** hit the fan hard, and certain people I considered friends up to that point, behaved, ummm, not very honorably at all - to put it gently. I ended up ditching them anyway - it was a relief.
OldOnTheInside Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I don't think infidelity destroyed friendship, in the end she wasn't your friend at all. I had similar situation when **** hit the fan hard, and certain people I considered friends up to that point, behaved, ummm, not very honorably at all - to put it gently. I ended up ditching them anyway - it was a relief. I concur. This is actually a perfect example of somebody who is a friend...and somebody who is a friend. Gotta choose carefully right?
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