shook187 Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I sent my ex a long text 4 days ago, after 3 weeks of being broken up in a 5 year relationship. I was fine because I didn't think she'd write back so I had 4 days of nc on my hands. She then writes back 'Thankyou for apologies, I think its a good idea you do you time and I do me time, good luck with ur future, goals, career, I wouldn't be who I am today without you, Ull always be in my heart x'. Sounds like the end, should I wb?
TearyEyedPride Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 No. Please don't. It'll just leave the cracks open for her to reply. You said what you needed to say, and she replied. Somewhere inside I don't think there's much left to say.
dng Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Good clean break, no false hope, no stringing along. She's being respectful and decent. Appreciate it and do the same, dont write back and push forward.
oldguy Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 It doesn't get much cleared than that. Rather than view it as the end of a relationship look at it as a fresh new beginning to the rest of your life. Take some time to grieve & reflect on lessons learned. This is a good time to get to know you, five years older and a good bit wiser. Good luck
superchiefs Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I sent my ex a long text 4 days ago, after 3 weeks of being broken up in a 5 year relationship. I was fine because I didn't think she'd write back so I had 4 days of nc on my hands. She then writes back 'Thankyou for apologies, I think its a good idea you do you time and I do me time, good luck with ur future, goals, career, I wouldn't be who I am today without you, Ull always be in my heart x'. Sounds like the end, should I wb? No, I dont think you should write back. You have gone 4 days of NC. If you write back, then you will be back at day 1 and feel bad all over again. Dont you feel better with yourself today than you did 4 days ago? I am speaking of this first hand, I went over a week of NC, then something came up where I had to break contact, and I started all over again. I am currently going on 20 hours of NC right now, it is tough, but I know as each day passes, things will get better. The only way I am going to break NC from now on is if she sends me some sort of message indicating that she wants to get back together. Otherwise, as far as I am concerned, there is no reason for me to ever talk to her again.
Pikachu Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I dont think you should contact her either. The thing that amazes me how your exe said the exact same thing is my exe. Im starting to think people are looking up what generic thing to say at the end of a relationship.
Author shook187 Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 sadly I did break nc here. I asked her why she said goodluck with my life, like were never going to see each other again. And she respectfully said 'for now anyway, I can't text you anymore'. I suppose her grieving period has began. She loves me but doesn't want to love me anymore. All I can do is respect that and move forward. After 5 years with someone, this is extremely hard.
superchiefs Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 sadly I did break nc here. I asked her why she said goodluck with my life, like were never going to see each other again. And she respectfully said 'for now anyway, I can't text you anymore'. I suppose her grieving period has began. She loves me but doesn't want to love me anymore. All I can do is respect that and move forward. After 5 years with someone, this is extremely hard. Yes, I agree completely. This is very hard! I am just now approaching 24 hours of NC and I find myself really wanting to reach out to my ex. But instead of emailing her, I called my therapist and am meeting with him this afternoon. Hopefully he can help me find the strength to keep up NC for a lot longer. I hate myself for wanting to be with my ex so bad after she broke my heart.
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