foreverascone Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Hello everyone, just need some views from people more experienced than me in this sort of things. You can read the breakup story here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3417890#post3417890 Anyway it has been about a month now and we talk on and off still over MSN. Last week I thought I would go no contact with her so I blocked her on everything and just go on with life. Was tough for me actually. This week I spoke to her again and she noticed I ignored her, I assume she got a little bit annoyed. She hasn't been online for a long time and very briefly, but I managed to speak to her last night. She quickly tells me where she is, at her boyfriends house all week and what she's doing. Yeah it hurts a little bit but I am just seeing if she's OK. It's nice to speak to the person I knew. Told her what I have been up to and how my depression is getting better and I am feeling happy. She get's very bitter. She tells me how she's never been happier. I said I like to think I made you happy some of the time and she replies yeah you keep thinking that. I apologised saying sorry for making your life so miserable in a joking manner because deep down I know she was happy. I think she finds it easier to dislike me than to like me. I am sure the boyfriend makes her feel better as well about me. Just want to be friends with her and talk like we used to. What are your views on this? Any similar situations?
Nohbody Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Probably need to give her space. If you want to be friends with her try contacting her in a few months, hopefully she won't be sore with you. Personally, I'd consider just going NC completely, but that's up to you.
Mcnulty Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 She has very little empathy. You had/have depression...it's an illness! Why do you want to be friends with someone who buggered off with another guy??? Happiness can only come from you. I would move on and not let her say such crap to you like"you never made me happy"...what good are words like that to you. when you're trying to heal mentally and emotionally?
Author foreverascone Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 Yeah I agree, it has been tough having depression. Mentally now though I am definitely getting better. I can handle it all really. I am going to go no contact now and let it be, just would be great if she would wake up and realise. I just can't understand why she flipped on me so badly. It's odd she has to tell me how great she has been though and doing everything with him. I think I just miss her and want to have closure on it so I try and talk to her and get it but she just acts really vile. Maybe karma will sort things out in the world, who knows. Any tips for no contact to get through it? Thanks guys.
Kodo Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 bit similar here. I was dumped for "not treating her right". Perhaps my dedication to uni and the cramped living conditions (she lived with me) contributed to a bit of indirect neglect. But basically she stormed off and is angry at me like i cheated on her or something. Month+ later, still very mad. She replies to texts but very little to say most of the time (unless of course she has something to say). But I can definitely relate to the "it's easier to dislike". That's a universal truth. It's always easier to destroy than to create. It's easier to hate than to forgive etc. Weak immature people like this, they'll cling to that because they can't do anything else.
Author foreverascone Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 Yeah she was very clingy, kind of scares me how she can stop caring for me because she is so angry at me. Anyway have gone NC for the last few days and has been good.
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