dancingintherain Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 My ex and I broke up over six weeks ago. It wasn't messy or full of drama, it just ended with him cheating and me breaking it off officially, then no contact. He texted a few times and asked to be friends, and a month later I broke no contact and finally said yes. We had a nice conversation, but I haven't heard from him since.*Part of me wants to put forth effort to be friends (text him and ask how he's doing), but the other part says 'F*ck it. Let it go'.* A relationship ending is a two way street, and my problem was pursuing him and putting forth too much effort. So, you can understand my hesitance to initiate contact again (it'll feel like the same scenario all over again). What should I do? Attempt friendship because that's what we said we both wanted, or just sit on my hands and see if he ever makes a move? The latter seems better, but bitchy for never trying but expecting him to do so. Actions speak louder than words for both parties. I just don't want to play the fool for trying.
casual Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 As much as you want to pursue your ex that you cannot be with anymore. Resist! Live, learn and laugh. You'll find someone else to replace him and it'll be worth it.
Exit Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Sounds like you should just carry on. You were nice enough to come around to agree to being friends, and then he wastes the opportunity anyway. Obviously it isn't very important to him. You can do better. Sign up for a free dating site even if it just boosts your ego to have some new guys to talk to.
Author dancingintherain Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 Thanks guys. I guess it just hurts not to be a part of someone's life when you didn't do a damned thing wrong. I've never had someone just leave and not attempt friendship with me unless there was a huge argument or a lot of drama. I just don't understand people sometimes.
DSM2709 Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I know how you feel dancinintherain... Move on, it's not worth it. I've been down that road and it does suck when you try to be friends with your ex when you heart wants more. It never works. Go with the dating sites, but be weary!!
radiodarcy Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 let it go. i know there are people who continue to be friend with their exes but i personally can't doing it. i tried being friends with my ex and it was a disaster! especially once he started dating other women breaking off the friendship wasnt easy but i certainly don't miss hearing about how great his life is now that i'm no longer a part of it...
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