Mileena Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I'll make it short and just get to the main parts. Me and my boyfriend has been together for a few months and the last time we had sex he came in me. We have been having problems the last couple of days cause of my jealousy issues about girls on his profile, but i figured thats my issue and i thought everything would be ok so i told him that there is a chance i can be pregnant. He said again...lol. I said the last time you pulled out and i told you it might be possible but this time you didnt and the other times i never said anything to you cause you never came in me but this time you did. I forgot what he said but it was mean and i said i forget how f---ed up you could be and he got mad and said it was over. I said why and he said cause this is the second time i did this to him and if im gonna say that hes f---ed up then dont talk to him anymore and now hes gonna lose sleep over this and he hung up. Im hurt. Did i do something wrong?
Fedor Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 You were wrong to let him cum in you. I would go recommend emergency contraceptive such as Plan B. This guy of yours sounds like a tool. Let him be.
Author Mileena Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 its too late for that we had sex almost two weeks ago. Only reason i said something is because i should be getting my period this weekend and i should already feel the signs and i dont so i thought i should tell him and he would be there for me but now he made me feel like its my fault and i feel bad for saying anything without knowing for sure cause now hes stressed too AGAIN as he said and im thinking ok he knows what he did why is he getting mad at me just cause im worried now. I really feel like total s--- now because if im not pregnant i f---ed everything up by opening my mouth but at the same time i think if hes gonna act this way with me cause of something he wanted to do and he makes me feel worse about it then f--- him but i cant help but regret telling him
Kodo Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 its too late for that we had sex almost two weeks ago. Only reason i said something is because i should be getting my period this weekend and i should already feel the signs and i dont so i thought i should tell him and he would be there for me but now he made me feel like its my fault and i feel bad for saying anything without knowing for sure cause now hes stressed too AGAIN as he said and im thinking ok he knows what he did why is he getting mad at me just cause im worried now. I really feel like total s--- now because if im not pregnant i f---ed everything up by opening my mouth but at the same time i think if hes gonna act this way with me cause of something he wanted to do and he makes me feel worse about it then f--- him but i cant help but regret telling him If this is his attitude he is pathetic and weak. But don't worry about that now, you need to get this situation under control. Go see a doctor as soon as you can. We all make mistakes and accidents happen. But we must ALL take responsibility for it.
Fedor Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 How old is this dude? He sounds really immature. The concern should be your health, not his stress.
Author Mileena Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 Hes 19 and thats all he worries about is he doesn't need any more stress cause of school and work.
Fedor Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Hes 19 and thats all he worries about is he doesn't need any more stress cause of school and work. He needs to act like a man if he's going to have unprotected sex with you. Dont let him in the cookie jar again if he cant take responsibility for his actions. If this happend with me, the morning after pill would have been given to you instantly.
dangerstranger Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 You both participated in unprotected sex knowing the risks and you're both at fault if you are pregnant. You both knew the risks and chose to ignore protecting yourselves. You are in charge of protecting your own body, so make sure you take the necessary precautions to avoid pregnancy scares like this. In my opinion, you've been dating a douchebag. Since he participated in the act as much as you did- walking away from talking about it indicates he's not a solid guy. You both participated in this act of unprotected sex, let it be a lesson to you to insist on protection the next time. You have to look after yourself first.
Author Mileena Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 I thought he would take responsibility he has one kid already and he stayed with her from what he said until they broke up. Maybe im stressing too much but i really dont understand why he got mad at me. Its not like i held it inside me and said u better cum in me. No he said he wanted too i just made the mistake when i said ok. Im trying to convince myself that i can do better but now i gotta wait until this weekend by myself until i know for sure and i will probably be by myself after that and if im not i will be happy that im not but will feel worse cause i told him.
stray Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 He has no reason to be mad at you. He had the choice to pull out and he didn't, and you had the choice to ask him, and you didn't. Mutual responsibility. You letting him know you're afraid of being pregnant is a VERY real and legitimate fear and he should understand that. Raising a kid and/or having an abortion are both really big deals, and he needs to take these risks more seriously in the future, as do you. I had unprotected sex with my ex once in January because he insisted, AND I took Plan B, AND I got pregnant. So it's very real, and abortions aren't very pleasant (if you'd go that route). So no, you did nothing wrong TO your boyfriend. Please dump him.
Author Mileena Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 It is very serious another reason why i told him. Im only 17 and this is my life and he dumps me cause this is the second time i told him that there was a chance i really dont think i should have to tell him he should know. If i am i dont really want a abortion cause its not the babies fault and i did say he could knowing what could happen so now im stuck with my choice but he gets to walk away and be stress free. If he calls or texts me i dont even know what to say to him. I let him get away with alot and dont say anything when he talks to other girls that he says are ''friends'' cause im very jealous and i dont want to jump to conclusions and stress him but he f---ed up big time on this one.
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