azsinglegal Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I recently ended a tough relationship with a BF and in my quest for physical affection, I reconnected with an old FWB from a year ago. We used to hang out once in a while, but really, I liked him, he didn't want any expectations so I left it as a FWB. When I got into my last relationship, I obviously quit seeing him, but we still talked once in a while via text or FB, but I hadn't seen him in a while. We hooked up a few times in the past month and I was totally fine with it because I really don't anything more. Well, recently his behavior towards me has changed significantly. He asks me to spend the night and has me bringing my dogs over so I can. We're hanging out more, going to the gym (he's a bodybuilder and would NEVER work out with me before but all of a sudden is wanting to "train me" 2-3 times a week), he holds my hand in public, is telling me about his day and making long term plans for weekends - things he never did either. He's also started talking about his friends with me and to them about me. He's affectionate, kissing me, holding me, cuddling, BUT... We haven't had sex in 3 weeks. I'm totally confused. Did I get put in the "friend zone"? Our communication is WAY more then it ever has been, talking about our lives, friends, past, etc. I had this guy in the FWB category for the past year we've known each other so when I reconnected with him, THAT is what I expected. I'm totally, completely and utterly confused. We're in our 30s. Both single, no kids. I posted this originally in another section, but no one responded.
pilotDXB Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 It sounds like hes taking it slow with you but wants to be in a relationship. Probably liked you before but felt he lost you. If you want sex and/or a future with him just say so.
Author azsinglegal Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 It sounds like hes taking it slow with you but wants to be in a relationship. Probably liked you before but felt he lost you. If you want sex and/or a future with him just say so. Thanks, I'm not sure what I want. I'm going to go with the flow. He used to be the kinda guy who wouldn't make ANY plans with me and if he felt any kind of expectation, he'd run. NOW....he's making several plans with me. I do like him tho and I wanted a relationship when we first met. I just need things to go very slowly.
Author azsinglegal Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 Just in case anyone was wondering...We have moved from me staying one night on the weekends, to entire weekends a couple of weeks ago. Since I decided to not read into it, I'm really happy. We have fun, laugh together, and for the first time in my entire life I'm enjoying someone's company without any pressure of saying "I love you" or wondering where it's going. I don't feel attached to him, but I'm pretty sure he's attached to me. We went to see my friend's band on Sat night and he was all about keeping me close to him so everyone knew we were together. And I liked it. He isn't just "taking it slow" he's slowly bringing me closer without overpowering either of us with expectations. It's pretty damn great. Now I feel like a fool for freaking out and posting up being confused. I'm a silly woman and should really learn to stop reading into things.
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