Monte_Cristo Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I'm married for 5 years. I really don't love my partner. I'm stuck. I still feel that I love my ex. We broke up 13 years ago but her memory still lingers. We broke up because we were in a long distance relationship and it did not work out. I was devastated and until now the pain lingers. We've been communicating again for the past two weeks and I desperately want to see her. Should I see her again? Is it wrong?
OldOnTheInside Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I don't suppose you've told your wife that you don't love her? Of course not...
sasha-bunny Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Hey Monte, My advice is be very cautious when heading down this path because if you have no intentions of leaving your wife than I would say don't visit her and stop communicating all together. Continued contact will lead to an intense fast-tracked affair that will end up hurting both that ex you think you love and the wife you say you don't. I am in no way trying to dismiss your feelings for your ex but leave your wife first so that you are free to explore those feelings as it is not fair to either of them. I am that ex and I ended up being the OW. It started out innocent enough just playing catch up but within weeks it was one of the most intense connections I have had with anyone. 7 weeks post D-Day and I am left more confussed and with more questions than if we had never reconnected. A couple questions: Is your ex involved with anyone? Do you have children with your wife? These factors add even more complications.
dangerstranger Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Deal with leaving your wife first- don't jump into an affair. If you don't love your wife anymore- she deserves to know- she doesn't deserve to be led on when you don't have feelings for her anymore. Once you deal with the first problem, you can be free to pursue whatever you like with a clear conscience.
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