alphamale Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 ALL girls prefer alpha males but only a select few can get them
Stung Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 ALL girls prefer alpha males but only a select few can get them Of course alpha would say this! Ross, so much depends on how you define "alpha male". The way many on this board define it is more like what I would call a "jackass". I do not prefer jackasses.
alphamale Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Ross, so much depends on how you define "alpha male". The way many on this board define it is more like what I would call a "jackass". I do not prefer jackasses. an "alphamale" could also be a well educated, good looking man who is happily married with kids
Author Ross MwcFan Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 Well, okay, maybe not specifically alpha males, but guys who aren't shy. So to re-phrase the question, do shy girls prefer shy guys, or do they still prefer non shy guys like normal women do?
KOH Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 let me put it this way. they say they want the "nice shy guy", & they believe it, but they actually want alpha males.
Taramere Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I have always felt I'd be happiest with a man who was fairly quiet and temperamentally similar to me. However, what you like in theory and what you like in practice are often two different things. Shy men tend to come across as lukewarm and hesitant, which makes you automatically think "well, maybe he's not that interested." Confident men make their interest plain and they make it "okay" to flirt. With more shy, withdrawn men you can tend to get that sense of them being a bit uptight and judging/disapproving of/disliking you if you become at all flirtatious in your manner. I don't know about alpha/beta. I think men can switch from either role depending on the situation....but certainly confident men are far easier to relax around and be flirtatious with.
Jazzari Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I have no idea what most shy women like. But I'm shy and I prefer an outgoing "alpha" man. I usually get over my shyness very quickly with that type.
OldOnTheInside Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I'm a "shy guy" and I have had shy women that were interested in me, and confident women that were interested in me... Considering how complex and varied human attraction is...this just seems like a ridiculously open-ended question that you're asking.
somedude81 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Nobody wants a shy or quiet guy. Women will make an exception if the shy guy is really good looking.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 I'm a "shy guy" and I have had shy women that were interested in me, and confident women that were interested in me... Considering how complex and varied human attraction is...this just seems like a ridiculously open-ended question that you're asking. Well, maybe, maybe not. For all I know, most shy women may prefer shy guys. I'm just wondering if that's the case.
Enchanted Girl Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 an "alphamale" could also be a well educated, good looking man who is happily married with kids Really now? Then I don't think the majority of us like those. I know that I certainly do not date married men. That's wrong and cruel to the wife.
OldOnTheInside Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Women will make an exception if the shy guy is really good looking. Well thanks buddy. For all I know, most shy women may prefer shy guys. I'm just wondering if that's the case. My point is...wide-sweeping generalisations aren't particularly useful or realistic in the dating world (or anywhere else really). "Alpha-male", "shy guy", and "normal girl" are just labels, you know? They don't mean that much in any practical sense. A shy guy may be good at getting a girl to open up and communicate. An alpha-male may be a complete jack*ss. And vice-versa. Who can say? But to stay on topic, in my experience as a shy guy, I've had gfs with very different personalities. In the long run, the fact that I was shy didn't mean that much compared to other aspects of my (and their) personality.
fishtaco Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Not all women are into the alpha types, but almost no women like shy guys. Even if they like shy guys, shy people in general, men or women, are difficult to approach because well, they're shy. Dating is a social activity. Shy is the opposite of social. Not that shy people have no chance, but their chances are drastically reduced. Bottom line, don't be shy. And this applies to both genders.
GoodOnPaper Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 For all I know, most shy women may prefer shy guys. Doubtful. When I was young and in grad school, I figured that the shy, nerdy women that I came in contact with would prefer shy, nerdy guys (like me) -- that assumption failed miserably. Said shy, nerdy women wanted the same alpha males that the cheerleader types did . . .
spiderowl Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I'm a shy woman. I would prefer a guy who is a bit more like me in nature but I also prefer alpha males because they actually let me know they like me and they make a move like asking me out. Shy guys tend not to. While I think sometimes the shy guys like me, they don't let me know and it leaves me unsure about them. In the end, I have to assume they just want to be friends or risk getting rejected myself. One of my shy male friends is about 11 years younger than me. I'm 70% sure he really does like me, but he's only ever hinted. He's never asked me out, except in a 'are you going to blah' kind of way, and he's never dared to give me hugs or put his arm round me in a casual friendly way. I know it must be hard to do these things, but I don't want to impose on him either. I'm older and I'd feel so embarassed if I initiated anything with him and he rejected me. Yet the guy is very thoughtful and brings me things he knows will interest me and always sits with me to chat. It's very confusing!
alethean Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Hmm...I'm shy, and I would prefer that a guy likes me, period. fishtaco is right. Don't be shy. Lol.
srcolema Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I thought I liked the alpha males but then they end up being to much for me, I felt like if they could bring the shyness out of me or at least talk more then me.
musemaj11 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Nobody wants a shy or quiet guy. Women will make an exception if the shy guy is really good looking. Or has a lot of money.
musemaj11 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Most people like outgoing people. But women in particular want men to be confident because they want men to do everything so they can just wait and do nothing. Its simply a selfish desire. Although I'm not really saying its wrong.
Star Gazer Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I am not attracted to shy men at all. I just re-read the thread title, asking whether shy women like shy men. I really don't know, as I'm not a shy woman.
Eclypse Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 There is a large spectrum inbeteen super shy and alpha male. The key is confidence, no matter how cliched that sounds. I just developed a bit of a "don't give a damn" attitude and the results were incredible!
mo mo Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 is it possible to be shy and alpha at the same time???????? cuz I think I go through phases of both. meaning: I have all the tools of an alpha, but I can be really shy sometimes. At other times tho, I embrace the alpha-ness and I'm loud as hell.
Afishwithabike Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I'm a bit on the shy side myself, but people are surprised when I say it now. Guess I seem more extroverted than I feel. For me it depends on how shy the guy is. Some people can be a bit shy, but warm up once you get to know them, but others are painfully shy even when you get to know them. If someone is painfully shy even after I get to know them then it won't work out.
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