GF (ex) snooped my cell calls.....

[otherfish]

I have been broken up with my ex for about 3 months now and it has been 100% NC for the duration. I got to thinking.......a couple of years ago when the relationship was fresh, new and GREAT we were having a conversation and in the conversation I gave her my password to my cellphone account.

 

Long story short, I found out that she had gone into my cellphone internet account without my knowledge and was tracking my every call for who knows how long. I found this out because my ex wife (who lives 1000 miles away) called me late one night after a breakup and I guess she wanted some consolation from me. I did not want my GF to know that she called me but little did I know she did know because she was tracking my calls. I lied to her and told her that my ex did not call me. She was pissed that I lied to her and it broke some of the trust in the relationship. We seemed to get over it because we lasted like another year and a half.

 

My question is, what should I take from her monitoring my calls without me knowing about it? Was she wrong for doing this without my knowledge? Is that a trust-breaker to a certain extent also? Tks in advance,

[Lilmisus]

When you gave her your password, did you also give her permission to use the account to track your calls? Or did you just say it in passing like "I just got this new phone, and apparently I can keep track of my calls online, if I need to! Password is easy, it's just 'balloon', so I wont forget it anytime soon!"

 

If you didn't give her permission, then it's wrong. End of story.

 

If you did give her permission, then it's your own fault..but it's really weird regardless that she never mentioned anything about it to you, if she thought for even a moment that it was okay with you. Show's that she had some major trust issues in your relationship. (And this is coming from a girl who accidentally found her way to her ex's Facebook, and through his inbox. It's wrong, no matter what, if you don't have your partner's permission. I felt horrible afterward, and the trust was killed in the relationship. My story's on here somewhere..don't feel like looking for it though)

 

If I were you, I'd just look at this as another lesson learned: don't give out your password. If you do, tell them "yes" or "no" to being able to use it if they want to. If you say yes..don't be surprised that they're checking up on you every single day..just know that it's a bad sign if they are. But, also, maybe change your password..or your phone number, if she's still tracking your calls (which..if she she is..then you probably dated a psycho..just sayin').

[alexlakeman]

YOU gave her your password.. you threw yourself under the bus... no way around it, screw her..

 

You broke up I imagine? Well, just screw with her brain at this point... Tell her, "every woman's number that was on my cell, I slept with while we dated, next time don't snoop" ...