youaretheone Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 My girlfriend's (of 5 months) dad is in town and he is planning to have a barbecue with the three of us. I know that he asked her lots of questions about me and in the end, he told her I am a great guy! I also know that he is very strict and one of the "difficult" father figures. As normal, I am a bit excited and nervous. I would like to get some advice on make things go smoothly during the barbecue.
Stung Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I thought her dad was on the run from the law? Am I mistaking you for somebody else? I guess don't invite any cops to the BBQ, for starters. Generally, be yourself but be sure to be respectful, both of the man and especially of his daughter.
Author youaretheone Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 Yep, he is that one. He is staying with his daughter for a while to move to another country.
Cee Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I'm thinking the same thing as Stung. You posted a sensational thread stating that your GF's father was on the run from the law. How did you from the Fugitive to Meet the Parents in a few short days? Edit: I read your next post. I don't think you have anything to worry about from this "strict" father who also happens to be on the run from the law.
Author youaretheone Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 Ok, ignoring his past, how much affection to his gf is too much? Do I kiss her when greeting like always, in front of him? What is appropriate and what is not?
Stung Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 A light, closed-mouth kiss is fine, or a kiss on the cheek. Feel free to touch the small of her back, or her hand. Give her a quick hug or help her down the stairs, whatever feels natural. Don't rest your hand on her knee, don't try to get her to sit on your lap, don't slip her the tongue, don't smack her ass, don't run your hands through her hair and sniff her neck...you get the gist. Do follow her lead. If you move in to kiss her hello and she turns her head so you are going to kiss her cheek, just go with it. If she acts a little standoffish and doesn't lean towards you as she usually does, just take that cue and do no more than press her hand in greeting and give her an affectionate smile. Do make sure you give him a firm handshake. Do not make a funny joke about how they're coming to take him away if you hear sirens going down the block.
KOH Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 one good advice is, don't even touch her, he still thinks his baby girl is pure & all.
Stung Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Meh. When introducing boyfriends to my dad, he would be twice as suspicious of them if they were afraid to touch me at all. It indicates deep insecurity on the boyfriend's part, and dads--much like protective dogs--can smell fear.
KOH Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Meh. When introducing boyfriends to my dad, he would be twice as suspicious of them if they were afraid to touch me at all. It indicates deep insecurity on the boyfriend's part, and dads--much like protective dogs--can smell fear. of course he'd be suspicious if they act scared, he can get comfortable without getting touchy, it doesn't have to be awkward.
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