zuzuzoggins Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Hi everyone, so here goes 'my story'.....was with my ex about 1 and a half years..prior to that I was madly infatuated with someone who repeatedly cheated on me and when I got with my new boyf I was so happy to find someone loyal I could trust..however I didnt get that crazy chemical 'buzz' but was still happy. However on a couple of drunken occasions I checked my then ex's facebook or rang him just to see how he was (but nothing sexual was said) and my current boyf of the time went crazy!!! so I eventually stopped this, changed my phone etc..in order to regain his trust..he was so possesive and insecure, i couldnt even have male friends About a year into the relationship he stopped wanting to take me out, and became a housebound slob, he didnt have a job and was really moody...I tried to coax him to come out and new years eve he didnt want me to go to a bar where a male friend was and other friends..so i promised not to..we went somewhere else and i went to the toilet to put make up on (there was a massive queue) and i came back and he went crazzy saying where have u been and put his hands on my throat.....i was so upset and drunk i stormed off to the bar where my friends were and later received a text saying 'u deceitful cow' at that point i was past caring and felt completely unloved so I DID cheat on him with one of his band mates....i told him the truth straight after and now weve split up..... i feel awful for cheating, im totally against it but i felt de-motivated cos we stopped having fun together and he didnt trust me... now since we broke up he's moved away and im full of regret i didnt let go of my past and appreciate him fully...and work through things like adults instead of petty children...he doesnt want anything to do with me but i do love him and miss him like crazy...will there ever be a chance he'll forgive me ??? can u still love someone if youve cheated on them??? i feel like i do but all these sites say once a cheater always..and that im the scum of the earth but i feel like i just acted immaturely and made a mistake
anechka Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not always true, it's just a general warning, because more often than not a person with a cheater mentality is never satisfied. Just because you've cheated doesn't mean you are condemned to a life of betrayal, don't worry. Usually all it takes is meeting the right person. Trust me, I know. He probably won't let go of it, and if he does he won't forget. Only you know what is best for you, but in this case it seems like it's best to move on and better luck next time!
Author zuzuzoggins Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 thanks for the advice..I guess we can only learn from our mistakes!! and next time I'm in an unhealthy relationship I'll get out before things spiral downwards...I actually 'tried' to distance myself from him before this horrible night, asked him to move out repeatedly and he wouldnt!
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