stray Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Good God, so now my ex BEFORE my last ex (whom I posted about last week) is contacting me after 6 months of NC which HE initiated. We had an awesome relationship, but then his ego exploded when he graduated medical school and he dumped me. Then he tried to get back with me when I was with my now OTHER ex (he encouraged me to cheat on my ex WITH him), it provoked a series of arguments which led to him telling me to "f*ck off" last November. He texted me three weeks ago saying he wanted to "clear the air", and I told him he could call me the following week - which he didn't. Then he texted me again this morning, asking "how I was doing". I texted him back, "Listen, I'm not interested in playing games. Please don't text me under the guise of 'wanting to clear the air' when we both know you just want an ego stroke or a shag. I'm not interested, look elsewhere". And he texted me back, "you've made it very clear you will never stroke my ego again or shag. Very very clear." What the hell does this douchebag want? In one way or another - he wants an ego boost, RIGHT? And thoughts on how to respond?
Chi townD Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 If you are not interested in an type of relationship with this guy whatsoever, then the next time he texts you. Let him know you are not interested, period! Yeah, he might be a Doctor but guys are dumb too and you have to draw us a picture sometimes.
geegirl Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 "draw us a picture sometimes".....love it. Needed the laugh!
Author stray Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 I definitely "drew him a picture" yesterday. But he didn't seem to get it, at all. Then he called me from a restricted number (haven't talked to him in SEVEN months) and proceeded to talk to me like everything was fine and normal, "hey how's work?", "how's so-and-so?". It was ridiculous. I even told him, "I just broke up with the guy I dated after you, I can't be friends right now, I'm not in a good place to try and do that" - and he ignored it. When I drove home from work I saw a car that was his exact make/model/color parked outside my house. I have sinced moved since the last time we were together; but when we were together he would stalk me (rather openly). I ended up driving back to the office where I work because I was afraid it was him outside my house. Did I mention this guy is in his second year of residency!? Kind of unnerving behavior for a physician, right? He's been yo-yo-ing in and out of my life for two years now, almost destroying my last relationship. He doesn't seem to respond to "leave me alone". At one point I was infatuated with this guy, but now I'm a lot more grown up and I'm tired of these games. Any grown-up advice about this kind of stuff?
Chi townD Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Well, you have to make sure that it was in fact, him! And if it was. Then it might be time for a restraining order. Believe me, the last thing a young physician needs is to have that on his record while trying to formulate a patient base.
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