Anna86 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Hi, so I am wondering does anyone else ever feel this way? If so, do you have any advice/kind words for me? Ex broke up with me 5 months ago, but it didn't really end until 2 months ago. I miss him lately. A lot. He hurt me a lot and I feel over him but today all of a sudden I just miss him. I had a few dreams about him and now he is in my head. I did a bad thing. I looked through his friends album on facebook and saw a picture of him and the girl he is seeing. He wasn't tagged in it, he must have untagged himself as he was tagged in the rest. I know that it isn't too serious because of he he speaks about her but still, it makes me feel really really sad. My point is this. For some insane reason I want to hear his voice. I want to talk to him. I want to see him all of a sudden. Its like a drug out of nowhere. I am not sure how to explain it. I thought 5 months later I would be okay but its hitting me again. Sorry to make it long and boring but I really am close to contacting him. I feel like I still love him........I know. Its crazy.
smudge21 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Yeah I'm desperate to talk to my ex even though she's totally moved on. These feelings come and go and we just have to ride them out. Making contact will not fix anything and will only make you feel worse in the long term.
radiodarcy Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 it's normal to feel the urge to contact him. just do your best to ride it out and it will pass. whenever i have the urge to contact my ex i remember all the times i did contact him only to regret it when he either didn't respond or his response wasn't what i had hoped for. that hurt way more than NC.
ItsRainingAgain Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 it's normal to feel the urge to contact him. just do your best to ride it out and it will pass. whenever i have the urge to contact my ex i remember all the times i did contact him only to regret it when he either didn't respond or his response wasn't what i had hoped for. that hurt way more than NC. That's exactly what I do when I have the urge to call... I remember how the last phone call ended. (three week ago) NC is the only way to go....no matter how hard it is.
geegirl Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 It's normal to feel this way. It is like a drug. You are still going through withdrawals and you want to find comfort in your drug. But the drug will hurt you. He is not your source of comfort but your source of pain. Don't go looking to him to soothe you. He may soothe you for a little while, then he walks away again, and you are left craving for another hit. Don't put yourself in that cycle. It's fine to love him and care for him but in the safety of your NC. You break NC and you get back to where you were again when you first started. Keep digging into that wound and you will forever be wounded. Plus he is moving on to another woman. Let him be Anna. You need to move on as well.
AmericanHoney Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Time to let him go hon. I have moments where I want to reach out and talk to him but he has moved on and has found a new GF. Sometimes we wish we could turn back time and wish we could change this but it is never going to happen. It will take time to get over that person but it's not healthy. Sometimes you just have to let go and move on.
dangerstranger Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 You know what has always stopped me from reaching out to an ex? The looming reality that they could reject me again first and foremost. I think sometimes you approach contacting them again with a sense of hope- and if that hopes gets crushed again- you're back to square one. I have an ex I still harbour feelings for, and I struggle every day not to contact him. My biggest fear is that he's either not going to respond, or he's going to tell me he's seeing someone. Both scenarios are not something I could handle- so I don't go there. I just don't want to punish myself in that way. Bottom line is that is someone really misses you, or wants to be with you, they will move mountains to make it happen. If they truly miss you and want to be with you, they'll reach out. The fact that they don't should speak volumes to us.
AmericanHoney Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Bottom line is that is someone really misses you, or wants to be with you, they will move mountains to make it happen. If they truly miss you and want to be with you, they'll reach out. The fact that they don't should speak volumes to us. Couldn't of said it better myself.
heart-broken-shmuck Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 There is absolutely nothing wrong with you... I broke up with my gf of 3 years 2 months ago...started NC over a month ago...since then I have not contacted her and she has not contacted me...Let me tell you that everyday is a struggle to not contact her! Its not easy for anyone...every situation is different...every person is different...I drive myself crazy at times because I cant believe that she let me walk away, or that she hasnt contacted me...however if she did...it wouldnt change anything...although somewhere deep down inside I hope that she misses me and thinks about me as often as I think about her...who knows if she does or not...it doesnt matter either way and there is no sense in thinking about it...people cope with things differently, people move on differently, some faster than others...although I put my best efforts into moving on everyday I wake up...I still get caught up in the same feelings you experience...its a process...try your best not to contact him, it will not change anything, and will set you back! Best of luck
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