belle21 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Well to cut a long story short: my ex and I work together..dated for a few months and it started off really well. I honestly thought we would really have a future together. He even said he thought he'd found "the one"... Things started to unravel seemingly overnight when he started having some family problems i won't go into...but basically he started acting very cold towards me and pushing me away until we broke up. He sent me a text straight afterwards saying he thought he'd regret it later, and he was so sorry. Basically said he had some stuff to sort out, not to wait for him but that the thought of me dating someone else made him feel sick. Naturally i was stupid enough to hang around hoping he'd change his mind, and this led to us sleeping together nearly every weekend when we were both drunk. He'd always stay the night but eventually he started leaving earlier and earlier. I;d bring the relationship up and he'd say he didn't want to talk about it. So the last time he was over i looked at his phone while he was in the shower (i know that's bad)...it looks like he talks to his ex pretty much everyday..and he says he was "in love" with her and basically has her on a pedestal, despite calling her selfish all the time. Throughout all of this i was treating him nicely because i was worried about him, but he seemed to use that as a means to treat me badly back i guess. He started standing me up, and i see him with another girl at work all the time (though he says they're just friends). Eventually we had a big fight where he told me to "move on" as he had broken up with me "ages ago"...it's been 4 months since he broke it off, but we've been sleeping together the whole time.. So I'm on day 4 of no contact. It's hard, but i know it's the right thing to do. I don't know is he was using me as a prop to make his ex jealous, or i was just a distraction or a game..but whatever the case, i really need to get over this guy, especially because we work together and it's making me feel sick going into the office. I really don't want to leave because it's my dream job, and there's no chance he'll leave either. Basically i just want to know how you get over someone when you still have to have limited contact wth them? And why would someone go from acting like they really care to seeming like they hate you overnight?
TearyEyedPride Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I'm sorry I know it hurts. My advice is to really just forget about him. He tried to use you and treat you like trash and he feels like that's acceptable for you. Continue to show him differently by reclaiming yourself back. You'll still care but you never have to act on those feelings again. You have your dream job already?! Good! Focus on that. You're beautiful, confident, and you just happened to run into a confused guy that you thought you loved. However... he wasn't so sure. Just try to move on. Only talk to him about work related things when you have to.
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