93TheHitStick Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 No different than a couple glasses of wine after dinner.. Basically this. And idk why you are going to stop smoking after you have kids. Not like you need to smoke around them.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 Except one is legal and one is not.
Miss M Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I have no plans of continuing to smoke pot when I am trying to have a family, and certainly not when I have children. I guess I don't see the difference between smoking when having a long-term girlfriend or wife. Well me as an intelligent woman, would not want to take the risk of getting into a serious relationship with someone who is a pothead in the hopes that they would stop once we got married and had children, because it will affect the relationship.
93TheHitStick Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Except one is legal and one is not. Lmao. That is funny. You know how illegal pot is? In pretty much any state in america if you are caught with a little bit of weed they will let you go. If you are caught with more then a little bit they might try to prosecute and you will get some community service. Only way you can get any real time for pot is if you have weight on you. In some states (west coast) It is practically legal. Cops don't go around trying to catch people smoking pot. Pot is illegal for a stupid reason. In america there are a lot of stupid laws. Drinking under the age of 21 is illegal too. But if you were dating a dude who was 20 and he was drinking would you flip out? No.
Miss M Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 And how would someone have a dependency on pot? Pot is not an addicting drug. If you are for the legalization of pot then you realize that it is no worse then alcohol. Don't get me wrong i'm not for walking around high all the time. But if you want to smoke a joint at night or in your free time why not? And why would a women look down on a man for smoking? I don't drink and i wouldn't look down on a girl for drinking. If you are super straight edge then i can see why you wouldn't want a dude who smoked. And if the dude in question is smoking all day everyday i can see again how that would be a problem. But there is nothing wrong with him lighting up when he has his alone time. That is why I used the word "dependent" and not "addicted". I think alcohol is worse than pot and I wouldn't date an alcoholic either. We are not talking about occasional pot smoking, we are talking about "pot heads".
93TheHitStick Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 That is why I used the word "dependent" and not "addicted". I think alcohol is worse than pot and I wouldn't date an alcoholic either. We are not talking about occasional pot smoking, we are talking about "pot heads". Well now i feel stupid. I guess i didn't realize what your definition of pothead was. I thought you meant anyone who smoked period.
Miss M Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Well now i feel stupid. I guess i didn't realize what your definition of pothead was. I thought you meant anyone who smoked period. I don't have a problem with occassional pot smoking. The pot is not the problem, the person who becomes a pot head is, and I don't think it's a good idea to get into a relationship with someone like that.
Knittress Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 No different than a couple glasses of wine after dinner.. Exactly. I wouldn't date someone who did this near-daily, either.
SxB Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 "Honest opinions here please........" If some one crosses your personal boundaries, then there is your answer. This is solely up to you.
OliveOyl Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I believe pot is not worse than alcohol. I also believe that if alcohol is legal, then pot should be too. That being said... I believe a regular dependency on any mood-altering substance has subtle effects that over the course of time WILL impact relationships, and usually negatively. It is a slow and cumulative thing. My ex had a problem with alcohol, which robbed the relationship, and then when he tried to cut back on alcohol, he turned to pot. Same difference... it generally meant he was "tuned out" too much of the time. Oh, he was functional. He never missed work because of either substance. But it created a wedge between us. Instead of using the relationship as a way to create intimacy and relieve stress, he preferred to get tipsy or high instead. My current BF used to abuse both alcohol and pot, but he became completely sober and clean several years ago. He won't touch either. It's extremely refreshing.
Ouroboros Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 If someone drinks alcohol I'm not exposed to its intoxicating effect and I am not forced to smell it as much as pot.
93TheHitStick Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 If someone drinks alcohol I'm not exposed to its intoxicating effect and I am not forced to smell it as much as pot. Lol. Because people never get intoxicated from alcohol right? Its easier to act normal when you are super high then it is to act normal when you are tipsy. And alcohol stinks just as much as pot. There is ways to do pot without it smelling at all. And even if you smoke if you do it outside there is virtually no trace of a smell.
Ouroboros Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Lol. Because people never get intoxicated from alcohol right?Someone else's drinking doesn't make me drunk. And alcohol stinks just as much as pot.Pot smells much worse. My brother was a pothead and his room reeked horribly. You didn't even need to go in it just past it. He tried to cover it up with air fresheners, open up the window, and use fans to blow the stench out but it never worked. Alcohol lying around the house gives off little to no smell. I have been to a brewery a couple times and even at its worst it smells nice. I am not a drinker, smoker, or drug user though. I can't stand the taste of booze.
93TheHitStick Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Someone else's drinking doesn't make me drunk. Pot smells much worse. My brother was a pothead and his room reeked horribly. You didn't even need to go in it just past it. He tried to cover it up with air fresheners, open up the window, and use fans to blow the stench out but it never worked. Alcohol lying around the house gives off little to no smell. I have been to a brewery a couple times and even at its worst it smells nice. I am not a drinker, smoker, or drug user though. I can't stand the taste of booze. Someone else smoking pot can't make you high either. That is impossible... And yea if you smoke inside your house it is going to stink. If you smoke outside it does not. And anyone who is smart smokes outside or blows the smoke outside. You should educate yourself. Pot smoke does not linger.
Cee Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I found something interesting the guy who I am supposed to go out on a date with may already have a GF. I casually asked him about Facebook and he changed the subject so I did a little detective work and found out that he is in a relationship. Hmm...... I guess I am a spare lol Ah, the plot thickens. Heavy weed smoker AND has "in a relationship" status on Facebook. We've got a double winner here.
OldSkool Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Here in CA, pot is pretty much legal, even without a medical condition (thanks Ahnold) Possession of less than 1 oz is a bailable civil infraction (no court appearance, no criminal record) and a dispensary practically every block in cities such as Venice & West LA, so fortunately us potheads don't have to look very far for a partner who either is pot friendly or a consumer themselves. That being said, I do have a medical condition which I treat in part with cannabis and other natural herbs. I took prescribed pharmaceuticals for over 20 years, resulting in serious nerve damage and I'm not about to start putting those poisons into my body again.
denisss Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 It's a tough one. It depends how much he's smoking and how it would affect your relationship. For example, you might hate the smell. Or maybe you don't like being around people when they're stoned. These are things you should think about.
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