AmericanHoney Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I met a guy and he said he wants to go out on a date with me but he wants to be clear he loves the cannabis. I am a clean cut kind of girl I don't even like drinking alcohol very much. I just wonder should I get involved with him?? Honest opinions here please........
Star Gazer Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I wouldn't, and I drink fairly regularly (socially, anyway). Someone who has to announce that they really like their weed, before you even go out with them, probably has a problem...
allina Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I'd pass. Sure smoking a little weed in college is no biggie, but a guy who needs to announce his love of pot to a potential date? Nah.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 That is what I figured. I don't mind if someone smoked weed for a party something like that but when the come out and say hey just to let you know I love cannabis that sounds like Willie Nelson lol.
Art_Critic Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Can your career withstand an arrest for possession ?.. many peoples can't.. such as a school teacher. If he gets popped in your car and he is holding, in many states you go to jail. If he is already making you aware then he most likely is a wake and bake kind of guy and you will most likely never know him as a truly sober person... and by truly sober I mean never under the influence, it takes many days for the effects to wear off... on the other hand... It is only a date.. and I'm making assumptions that might not be true... A date can't hurt and would allow you to get an idea to what kind of drug user he is.. If he is a mild user then your life would most likely not be impacted by his drug use.. but if he is a heavy user then your life will be affected and possibly altered..
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 I worry about my record that is what I worry about the most. I work as a nurse and if I get caught i'd lose everything.
Art_Critic Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I work as a nurse and if I get caught i'd lose everything. I guess his cost-benefit analysis is already not looking too good... Do you take drug tests at work ?.. What about if there is a problem at work ? would they make you take a drug test ?
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 We are a drug-free workplace and when I started I had to pass a drug test but as far as random tests go they have never done that. He seems like a super cool guy I just am unsure about his drug habits but hey like you said it's just a date and if he lights up in the car or lights up in the parking lot then we might have a problem and trust me that will be my last date.
Art_Critic Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 We are a drug-free workplace and when I started I had to pass a drug test but as far as random tests go they have never done that. He seems like a super cool guy I just am unsure about his drug habits but hey like you said it's just a date and if he lights up in the car or lights up in the parking lot then we might have a problem and trust me that will be my last date. Have fun...
alexlakeman Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 If you are NOT into drugs, move on.. Why would you run the risk of letting yourself be lured into that sh)t? No matter if your job tests or not.. move on, my opinion...
OliveOyl Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I met a guy and he said he wants to go out on a date with me but he wants to be clear he loves the cannabis. I am a clean cut kind of girl I don't even like drinking alcohol very much. I just wonder should I get involved with him?? Honest opinions here please........ "Loves the cannibis" sounds like a pot lifestyle, not just occasionally smoking a joint. Pot lifestyle = not my cup of tea. While I could tolerate occasional recreational use (and I mean very occasional), I wouldn't get involved with a pothead. If you don't also smoke it, you will never be on the same wavelength as him.
thatone Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I wouldn't, and I drink fairly regularly (socially, anyway). Someone who has to announce that they really like their weed, before you even go out with them, probably has a problem... disagree. there is no such thing as a pot problem, imo. it's a non addictive drug. i'm hooked on caffeine, if i don't have cokes or tea i have physical withdrawals. to a lesser extent i'm hooked on nicotine. i can temporarily quit or severely cut back on smoking but i will want a cigarette if i quit for an extended length of time. but i have gone years between being around and smoking with pot smoking friends and never had a desire to either have it or not. it's purely recreational and social to me. for whatever reason i meet a lot of women who like to smoke pot here recently. and if they leave any at my house or if i get any for them it'll literally sit in the drawer next to me for days/weeks at a time unless they come back to smoke it. i have no desire to smoke it alone whatsoever. maybe your guy was just being honest. if it's the kinda deal where him and his buddy go out to the shop and pretend to be working on a car or motorcycle or something when they're really just smoking a joint and giggling at stupid sh*t, i would probably advise that it's harmless and to just ignore it. if he only hangs around with other potheads and is a white guy with dreds and a wardrobe of hemp clothes or anything like that i'd say he takes it a bit too far, lol. just depends. i don't think there's any harm in one date and talking to him about it during the one date. i can tell you one thing for a fact, pot won't make a pothead get violent and beat up their wife/girlfriend/kids/whatever. alcohol can make an alcoholic do those things, though. ask yourself why one is legal and the other isn't...and if you come up with a good answer let me know .
Star Gazer Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 disagree. there is no such thing as a pot problem, imo. it's a non addictive drug. Just because it's not an addictive drug doesn't mean this guy doesn't have an obvious habit akin to an addiction.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 disagree. there is no such thing as a pot problem, imo. it's a non addictive drug. There is a potential for extreme psychological dependence upon pot, for some individuals. I'm not "against" pot and in fact believe it should be decriminalized.
Ouroboros Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 "Oh duuuuude ****! We had a date tonight?" That would be funny especially after all of this anxiety over his drug habit. It would also make it another prime example of a girl worrying way too much and a guy not being concerned enough.
betterdeal Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 That was candid and honest of him. You've not said no, so you're interested, but you are hesitant. Perhaps make that clear to him, and clarify just how involved he is with cannabis. Treat it like another relationship (which it is). Make it clear how much you want to be involved in that relationship too (if you're happy with his level of involvement). Thanks for being honest about the weed thing. I'm a bit unsure about seeing you because of it to be honest. How much do you smoke? How often? Let's say he smokes maybe once a month at his buddy's place playing X-box, and you can tolerate that... I can put up with that, but I don't want it anywhere near me. I also won't deal with you when you're high, or low. These are my terms. If he says, every morning just before work, to calm his nerves... Yeah, that's not going to work for me. Thanks again for being honest, it's appreciated. That sort of thing.
SingVoice Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 UGH I went through a similar situation. I met a guy who was really cute and funny...and he told me right away he smoked pot. I asked him how often...and he said...oh you know...once a month...once a week... He did it every day....I found that out later on. His house reeked of pot. I teach...and I basically told him that I wasn't going to go to his house if he smoked pot in it because I couldn't have my coat or hair smelling of pot at work. I do not smoke...ever. And I am ok with people who do it recreationally...but it's just not a lifestyle I am comfortable with. So I don't date pot smokers anymore....just my experience though.
Curious-One Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I worry about my record that is what I worry about the most. I work as a nurse and if I get caught i'd lose everything. Its not worth it... srs
oaks Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I don't have strong views about occasional use (so long as it really is occasional) although I don't smoke myself but I wouldn't date a regular pot smoker again. Sooner or later there would be a time when I wanted to do something and she would be too stoned to be interested, and if it's regularly then that gets old really quickly.
Cee Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I was in a LTR with a habitual weed smoker. He was functional and treated me well, but it had toxic effects on our relationship. His solution was to get me hooked on weed, which worked for a while. I became complacent and enjoyed the hazy high, but there was this gnawing anxiety that I couldn't shake. Eventually, I couldn't take the vague unhappiness I had. I made a break from the weed. And from him. I would never date a weed smoker again.
TheLawmaker Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Date With A Pothead...that's a great movie title there. Charlie Sheen can star in it. Ok, back on topic: I think you should avoid this guy like the plague. If he's a pothead, or drug abuser, that's a complication you don't want to get involved in. There's use, and then there's abuse. It's up to you to decide whether he's a drug user or abuser.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 I found something interesting the guy who I am supposed to go out on a date with may already have a GF. I casually asked him about Facebook and he changed the subject so I did a little detective work and found out that he is in a relationship. Hmm...... I guess I am a spare lol
93TheHitStick Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 I wouldn't, and I drink fairly regularly (socially, anyway). Someone who has to announce that they really like their weed, before you even go out with them, probably has a problem... Said like someone who knows nothing about weed. There is nothing wrong with smoking bud. I used to smoke copious amounts of weed everyday. Had to stop because i am looking for a job but still. I mean just because you don't like weed doesn't mean it can't work out. It would be better if you at least tried it. It is better and better for you then alcohol. But i have gone out with anti-weed girls. Its better if you can at least tolerate hanging out with him while he is high. If he smokes that much you probably met him high and won't see a difference lol. One chick hated when i was high around her. I simply didn't get high when i knew i was going to see her. Problem solved. Weed isn't like crack where everyone can tell you are a weedhead. Only way someone can tell if you smoke is if you tell them or they see you when you are stupid high. And even then its hard to tell. Try it though it makes sex feel better.
Art_Critic Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Had to stop because i am looking for a job but still. .....
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