Jman171 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 So my Ex just sent me a gift a few days ago, and it was just a little cassette to mp3 adapter for my car (they don't cost a lot of $), and she used to talk about getting it for me while we were together. I think it is just a way for her to boost her ego, but at the same time it reminded me that she was at least thinking of me. When I received the gift I did kinda break No Contact and say thank you for the thought (because it didn't fit ). I probably helped the ego boost by accident. Does this mean anything significant?
sun_moon Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Without knowing anything, it would seem she misses you. If she was a dumper, I still think she misses you, and if you are doing NC, its her way of possibly manipulating a reaction out of you to contact her, and it succeeded lol she is most likely in pain like you.
Sassygirl2 Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Can you tell us more about your relationship and breakup? Did she normally buy you gifts? I used to buy my bf gifts a lot too. I loved to shop for him and even now I find myself sometimes wanting to buy him stuff......but he dumped me and I'm no longer with him (obviously) so I have to remind myself of that.
Author Jman171 Posted June 7, 2011 Author Posted June 7, 2011 (edited) Can you tell us more about your relationship and breakup? Did she normally buy you gifts? I used to buy my bf gifts a lot too. I loved to shop for him and even now I find myself sometimes wanting to buy him stuff......but he dumped me and I'm no longer with him (obviously) so I have to remind myself of that. Our relationship was really good at the beginning like all relationships, and she was my best friend. We would hang out constantly and laugh all the time. Although most of this stopped after she got a new job. She met these new people who made her really happy, and I was extremely happy that she found friends out of almost all her co-workers. After a while though I started to notice I was a secondary option all the time to her friends (usually leaving me in the dust to go to parties with them). It usually left me pretty down, but I still loved the girl to death (first love btw). Towards the end of the 9 month relationship she just seemed to almost not care about me, usually replying to texts with responses such as ,"No" "Meh"..etc... 3 weeks previous to the breakup she had told me she felt disconnected to me, and I tried to honestly get her to feel the connection again, but I think she was already determined on ending it at that point. The break-up it pretty much written in my previous post:http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t279698/ And to answer your question about gifts. No we usually never bought gifts for each other (we did of course buy them for birthdays and such occasions). P.S. the job situation is weird, because it is a temporary job where people come in from around the country to kinda volunteer for a year and luckily it was in our hometown. And i'm pretty sure she didn't cheat on me although I really don't have a way to be sure. Soon she won't have anyone to really party with, so I don't know if this phase will pass and she'll realize that I'm here again. Edited June 7, 2011 by Jman171
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