Rello55 Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Well from my last thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t280633/ hopefully you read it and better understand but my ex gf texts and calls me frequently but its not like everyday more of a every other day type thing she just wants to talk, caught up etc all that stuff But the thing is I know that she misses me and prolly wants me back but she is hella confused we were best friends and was in a 3.5 yr relationship but i dont understand why isn't she trying to reconcile YET!!!!! p.s i know how it is with NC and your ex calls or tests and you get things mixed up thinking she misses you etc but thats not the case i really know that she misses me but idk whats the hold up
Nohbody Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I'm just thinking that at this point, unless I got a very clear signal, I would probably try to maintain NC. Granted, I have gotten nothing at all for almost a month, and increasingly I do not expect to . So it's easy for me to say.
GivenUp0083 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 I'm just thinking that at this point, unless I got a very clear signal, I would probably try to maintain NC. Granted, I have gotten nothing at all for almost a month, and increasingly I do not expect to . So it's easy for me to say. I can say I'm in a similar boat as well. My ex hit me up on chat after a month of NC just to "see how my weekend went". Now I played along, gave short answers expecting her to turn the conversation into something of significance but she never did. She is trying to be friends to relieve guilt/boost her ego, or she is baiting me to be controversial so she can justify her decision to end a great relationship. One of my best friends explained it to me like this: "if she really missed you and wanted you back, she would do everything she can to see you and tell you, she'd wait for you at your doorstep until you came home." It's the truth. We want to think she misses us, and to some extent she probably does, but it's not enough to want you back and that's a problem you shouldn't want to live with.
Author Rello55 Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 Keep things casual and whatever you do, never bring up the relationship until she does first. To further intensify it, make it look like you're seeing another woman so that she feels that she'll lose you soon. Right when she brings up the relationship, knock her off the pedestal immediately. In other words, don't accept her back without a bit of bite. I dont bring up the relationship with her and she also knows im not just sitting at home and doing nothing im outside hanging out with friends and females i also know and talk 2 im living the single life mayb she is seeing that and wants to do something about idk
Author Rello55 Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 I can say I'm in a similar boat as well. My ex hit me up on chat after a month of NC just to "see how my weekend went". Now I played along, gave short answers expecting her to turn the conversation into something of significance but she never did. She is trying to be friends to relieve guilt/boost her ego, or she is baiting me to be controversial so she can justify her decision to end a great relationship. One of my best friends explained it to me like this: "if she really missed you and wanted you back, she would do everything she can to see you and tell you, she'd wait for you at your doorstep until you came home." It's the truth. We want to think she misses us, and to some extent she probably does, but it's not enough to want you back and that's a problem you shouldn't want to live with. No its different with my ex after 2.5 months NC she calls me tells me she wants to come over my house (which im home alone for a while and its summertime too) i asked her out on a date and she said of course she would she didnt say just as friends or anything like that she calls and texts me alot now she never did this in the last 6 months there is no playing with my mind i know her too well for that there is no her trying to talk to me just for a back up guy/ friend she clearly states she calls me bcuz shes thinking about me and wants to talk to me and also she wants to see me bcuz if she didnt she wouldnt asked or wantd to come over my house so its more of a shes coming back to me in a way
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