pippa02 Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 BACKGROUND STORY - EX broke it off in Feb, Completly out of nowhere - Had been together 4 years, both from 17-21 years. - Reason for break up was he wanted to move away for work (12hour drive between us) didn't think we would cope with LD. Just wants to have a bit of time on his own. Last four months from break up We have kept in contact every few weeks during the four months. During this time he has said many times that "you don't understand I only broke up with you too be fair, because I knew long distance wouldn't work for us and don't want us to end badly" "you never know what will happen in the future". Also he has said that will always love me, and that he hasnt been with anyone else since us, just really does want sometime for himself.Anyway I know I shouldn't be contacting him! He also has asked a few times if we could meet up, but I didnt want to just meet for the sake of it! So said no. This weekend My ex and I have been texting all through the four day weekend. Everytime I think the conversation has stopped, or hes said goodnight and nice to hear from you.. I prepare to not hear from him in a while then he will text me in the morning again and start off another convo. I was trying so hard to not message back but did, he let me know that he just got to his new job and there is no reception where he lives but would talk to me next time he was in reception. Here I am left again feeling like ****. I don't no why I let him talk to me, I know it makes him feel better and then he just goes off feeling happier. Decided today will be my first day of NO CONTACT for good! I can't keep feeling this way, anyway what is the point in all this messaging its not actaully getting me anywhere just making myself feel like crap. I know he does miss me and we had the best relationship, he probably does just need time for himself. But I have decided I will not be there for him anymore just because he is probably feeling lonely or missing me a bit! Well he is going to get a shock, because I will not be replying anymore! its his birthday on the 19th and I am definatly not sending birthday wishes... What do you think? Anyway what does everyone think? Should I do the no contact thing for good? I havent given up hope for us but I do no if we were to be back together it wouldnt be for at least a year or two.. Is no contact the way too go?
Nohbody Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Yes. Go NC. If they want to get in contact with you, they will.
Rello55 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 No its not too late to go NC i thought i went NC too late too but it so happens i took the fact that i went from contacting my ex gf alot trying to change her mind with logic and all of that stuff to not texting or calling her for 2.5 months and now she is the one calling and texting me alot. even though NC is for self help it always gets your ex to think and wonder about you too
Author pippa02 Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 Wow really, rello thats cool! during the 2.5 months was she trying to contact you and u ignoring her? or was there no contact from her either. i fins it very hard when he texts me too not message back!
Rello55 Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 At 1st she used to text me and call i ignored tho sometimes i would jus text me but kept it short bcuz NC is hard but it makes you stronger but eventually it was complete NC she didnt text or call back tho but i wasnt effected by it it just helped me out you will know when your used to not talking to them bcuz they become No Thoughts LOL It gets easier with time
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