DontWorryBHappy Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 This summer I met a guy who was in a couple of my classes in college. We felt we had some important things in common (related to life values and such) and there was an attraction, so we tried to date initially. After a couple dates we decided to take a step back and just be friends first. I was newly out of a relationship and neither of us were sure about our long term compatibility, plus we had been moving a little fast. Ever since then, we've hung out a few times as friends. It's just been light, crazy fun basically. We'll pour some alcohol, drink until we're all giggly, slow dance, make out, etc. This most recent time we got a little sexual. It was actually more him than me, I only touched him "down there" once, and that was clothed. But he was a lot more giving toward me I'll say (if you catch my drift). He also did slip a condom on and went in me briefly and seemed concerned with whether it felt good for me (asking me "does it feel good?" etc), but we kinda stopped that and just continued dancing/being cuddly/etc. When we were getting physical as "friends" I didn't think much of it, just because I didn't want an attachment to another guy so soon after my ex, and I thought maybe I could still enjoy the physical benefits and the company and fun without getting attached. I actually would NOT say I am attached right now, but I guess the reason for the post is that I'm starting to realize that I could potentially BECOME attached if this arrangement were to continue. So I suppose now I'll tell him that while it's been lots of fun, we've gotta hang out without the alcohol and the "extra stuff" going on from now on. And take it from there. But the weird thing is that part of me wants to drag it out and enjoy the physical benefits more . But in my case, having full sex with him makes me feel slightly squeamish (just because we're not dating, so it feels dirty) but I greatly enjoy the making out and cuddling and dancing. But I know I can't have my cake and expect something to not go wrong. Right? I'd probably either get attached or he would get frustrated at me not being comfortable enough being sexual or I'd start to feel weird about being physical with a guy and that being pretty much it, or something along those lines. Oh, to be an emotional being.... I should have known I was like this when my ex accidently killed a frog. I cried, while he didn't see the big deal. lol
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