vsmini Posted June 6, 2011 Posted June 6, 2011 Do not post a picture of your girlfriend on here, let alone without asking her. What if someone (a member on here) recognizes her? or if she is on here too and you don't know that! OR, she stumbles across this site and see's a photo. I was going to say the same thing. Showing other people your girlfriend to people online is just weird. Don't be creepy.
Author trum39 Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 I was only going to do it because he said he cant believe she must be 46 and not look a day over 35. That was all. Thats why I was going to put it on my profile pic so not everyone could see it.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Not only should you look for a way to accept this (since she's given you absolutely nothing to worry about) but you should STOP asking her for details! It's clear that she isn't comfortable sharing them with you, and by continuing to ask, you're coming off as insecure. That's not attractive. You're going to create the exact situation you seem to, at least, fear to a lesser degree - that she's going to leave you. Every time you ask "So did any guys hit on you?" what she'll start hearing (if she doesn't already) is "I'm insecure about my ability to please you and your ability to be loyal." And after awhile, "Q&A man" is going to get the boot. So let it go, be confident that she wants only you, and stop getting hung up on what other guys are doing.
TheLawmaker Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 All attractive women have to face this. Sooner or later, they learn to deal with it. If, by 42, she still hasn't learned how to deal with inappropriate comments, she'll never learn. But it's not up to you to protect her; you can't be with her night and day, and if you are, you'll come off as overbearing and controlling.
zlatnapolja Posted June 7, 2011 Posted June 7, 2011 Ive been with my GF for almost a year now, Im 42 and shes 46, but doesn't look a day over 35 and is drop dead gorgeous. Everytime we go out even just shopping, men always stare at her and perve. In fact a lot of woman do too. We've had waitresses comment to her on how beautiful she looks. (Shes Mauritius so has very exotic looking features.) This doesnt bother me that much and Im getting used to it but she went out the other night with a friend of hers and they went to a bar for some drinks. I trust her 100% and know she loves me but I knew she would probably have someone try to hit on her. She told me the next day that 3 guys tried to hit on her in some way or another. She fobbed them all of telling them she was married and that her husband wouldn't be too impressed. It just pi$$e$ me right off that this happens and I hate it if she goes out somewhere without me. Although very rare anyway. Like I said I trust her but I hate the fact these men are oggling her, talking to her, and trying there hardest to get into her pants. One guy said to her "Your F%@#ing gorgeous" and "You are what you eat and by morning Im going to be eating you" Pathetic lines I know but I was so angry about it. So anyone else in this same predicament and how do you handle it??? Tell her that it makes you feel powerless, say that you would love to protect her from these comments but that you dont want to do this by forbidding her anything. Say that you care about her a lot and that it hurts you, be honest about it. It's never okay to act all psycho-jalous, but theres nothing wrong with telling her it upsets you. I myself am not 'dropdead gourgious', but I know my BF feels really bad when guys make these kind of comments. It really upsets him. I told him that I understand this and as long as he doesn't forbid me anything I'm willing to do whatever it takes to avoid these kind of comments.
Author trum39 Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 Hey thanks for the replies. Lots of good suggestions, I appreciate it.
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 Yes shes Mauritius, so has the nice brown skin and exotic looks. Id show you a picture if I knew how to add a profile picture. I dont want to post a link here for non forum members etc to see. I did a google search for "Mauritius women" -- would you say she resembles any of these: http://t1.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSvTt5c29iU-xDoNg3hb-Yu3jhCG7-5Kj_VEmgO_hPN3X8til5KreK2UoM http://t1.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSvTt5c29iU-xDoNg3hb-Yu3jhCG7-5Kj_VEmgO_hPN3X8til5KreK2UoM http://t0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQoETnJNs1ta3TdXwJvxsaNLSqX2o5xEKQ0FUsT6NMoo6i7DKo7kA
Osiris1234 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Stop being so worried about it, if she didnt wanna be with you she would have left you by now. Also how are guys suppossed to know she is taken when she is out with friends, they don't, she doesnt have a ring on her finger. So let them flirt with her. I guarantee you if she was way younger im sure she would havecheated or left you,but now she is with you,
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