mrswizzygog Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 I'll try to make this short. My son and girlfriend have planned thier wedding for 2 years and will marry next Jan. Myself and fella have had real relationship problems last year but resolved them and he askerd me to get married we,ve been together 19 years. We anounced it and arranged to do it the end of July. Small afair as its second time round for me. My daughter in law to be was not happy and has made every arrangement ive made difficult as she dosnt want us to copy anything theve done. (fair enough) Up until last week i was wearing a red gown which was fine by her. But trying it on i realised it was cheap and i didnt really look like a bride. (im 40 by the way) So I found my dream dress which is cream and sophisticated and I must say it looks fabulous. I told my son and now he,s annouced that she is not happy and very upset and wont be attending and she dosnt want him to attend either as he should be supporting her. She is by the way been spoilt all her life and is very self centred and a jelous person but id like to know if im wrong in this situation as I dont see it as stealing her thunder as this is our day and hers is hers. HELP!
LShasleftmeindespair Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Everything we do is wrong. Nothing we do is right. Learn to live in the wrong. Don't worry about the right.
pilotDXB Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Its unfortunate that that my ipad cant record the look of disgust i had as i was reading about your daughter in law. She doesnt hold the monopoly of matrimony and if you want to get married in a quick simple ceremony, what is to stop you (unless youre stealing all of their planning ideas....which seems implausible). One is in july, and the other is in january, theyre 6 months apart! I truly feel sorry for your son, and this is only the beginning. You can be sure that this bridezilla will rear her ugly at head at you again in some shape or form with regards to their wedding unless your son asserts himself.
AmEricanWomann Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 What a spoiled brat she is. She has no right to tell you what to wear to your own wedding. If this is how she acts, I dont see her marriage to your son lasting very long. Frankly, I hope he sees the light before he has kids with this woman, or she will make him miserable for the rest of his life.
TaraMaiden Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 mrs wizzygog, Please PLEASE tell me that will actually be your married name! Brilliant! Listen - you were on this planet long before she was a twinkle in her parents' eyes. So, by rights, you get first call. if they're both going to be so stroppy and silly about this, your wedding, then really, to be honest - you don't want them there anyway. Live your day, your way, and dress and celebrate the way you want to. if your son capitulates, and does as she requests, he's starting on a downward slippery slope. One way round it, is to ask him to give you away - but not invite her. Foolish, spoilt nasty little vixen. Your son needs all the luck he can get.....
Lucky_One Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Wear what you want, that pleases you and your fiance's hearts. A bride wearing white or cream at a wedding is no more "copying wedding plans" as saying "Do you take this woman...?" That is just an expected part of the actual rite. If you want, I would be happy to call this spoilt little girl and tell her to bite me.
carhill Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Enjoy your dress and your nuptials and, if S and fDIL choose not to attend, so be it. Says more about them than you. Weddings are joyous times. Lead by example. Good luck
Fugu Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 I'll try to make this short. My son and girlfriend have planned thier wedding for 2 years and will marry next Jan. Myself and fella have had real relationship problems last year but resolved them and he askerd me to get married we,ve been together 19 years. We anounced it and arranged to do it the end of July. Small afair as its second time round for me. My daughter in law to be was not happy and has made every arrangement ive made difficult as she dosnt want us to copy anything theve done. (fair enough) Up until last week i was wearing a red gown which was fine by her. But trying it on i realised it was cheap and i didnt really look like a bride. (im 40 by the way) So I found my dream dress which is cream and sophisticated and I must say it looks fabulous. I told my son and now he,s annouced that she is not happy and very upset and wont be attending and she dosnt want him to attend either as he should be supporting her. She is by the way been spoilt all her life and is very self centred and a jelous person but id like to know if im wrong in this situation as I dont see it as stealing her thunder as this is our day and hers is hers. HELP! She is obviously being very narcissistic, believing that she is entitled to being the center of everyone's attention, and she seems quite bitter by the fact that you might be 'stealing' even a little of that spotlight from her. You cannot control her. I would just do whatever makes you happy and try not to worry about her. Sounds like she's not someone you would have wanted at the wedding anyway.
Tayla Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 I think I'll wait til the newposter responds to others before sharing on this matter.
Author mrswizzygog Posted June 6, 2011 Author Posted June 6, 2011 Thanks for putting things into perspective all replyers. Sometimes your to close to the issue to see clearly. I appreciate all your comments and will now go ahead and have no regrets. I'll mrs Jones next month and cant wait and to TaraMaiden. No unfortunately mrswizzygog wont be my married name, shame... I know I love it too. Makes me smile.
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