Why did he stop contacting me all of a sudden?

[annabanana85]

I have been dating this graduate student from Europe in his mid 20's for the past two months. He works really hard and is kind of nerdy and shy. We only communicate through text during the week and see eachother about once a week. We started having sex a month into the relationship yet still it does not feel like a real relationship since we see eachother so little. He is extremely passionate and affectionate while he is with me yet there is very little communication throughout the week and he is very reserved.

 

He had been gone for a conference to Europe for a week and I thought that once he came back, he would want to see me right away. However he told me that he is really busy and stressed out this week and does not have time. Then he sent me this text message:

 

"I'm sorry but I won't be able to make it to the party tomorrow. I really need to work really hard on Sunday. This will continue like this until the end of summer unless I get a lot of work done now. Otherwise I will risk getting kicked out of the program. We should come up with a way to see each other nevertheless . After I submit my proposal, I will have a lot less work. This is the final hurdle."

 

This was like 10 days ago. Since then we met for coffee once like a week ago and txted maybe twice. I have not heard from him in like a week. Does it seem like this relationship is over? Why did he stop contacting me all of a sudden? Do you think it is un-decent and impolite for him to not talk to me about it first?

[tami-chan]

I think he views your relationship as casual ( read: you are his f*ckbuddy and probably thinks he is yours)...do not expect a lot from him. Evidently, his behavior bothers you, so do not see him again. Your expectations and his are different.

[Datura]

He doesn't appreciate your level of redundancy.

 

Stop posting the same crap when you were given advice - even if that advice doesn't sit well with you.