jeffrey88 Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 (edited) Hey everyone. first of all I'm Jeff. anyways. My gf broke up with me 4 days ago. 1 day after our 17 month anniversary, she says we shouldn't talk for , while and i say that's okay you contact me when you want too. except i kind of caved! and i have so many questions to ask her! i was her first boyfriend and she was my first girlfriend. i mean throughout the whole relationship, i got things like. i don't know if i went out with you because i liked you. or if i just wanted my self esteem to go up higher and i could feel good about myself, she said that she wanted to break it off with me after 6 months because she wanted to see what it's like to be with other guys, and said she wanted to do an open relationship. and in that time at the start i gave it to her, and then all of a sudden her feelings changed, and she didn't want to do it anymore, about 15 months, she wanted to break it off because she's said shes had like 6 crushes on other guys as the same time as she was dating me, and we worked through that. well i did ofcourse,, and throughout the whole time i was not able to say i love you to her because she claimed we shouldn't say it cause we don't know what it means, and that pisses me off. anyways until last week her and her guy friend. were texting like crazy. she claimed they were just friends and it didn't bother me cause i trusted her. they went to the movies. texted like crazy again.. and she started to stop talking to me via text and all that like she usually did during her days at work ect.. and had organised to do something with that guy again within 3 days for the second time and on my anniversary.. so you can see why i want answers from her.. do you think she left me for him? < --- apparently her and him are a item.. from what it looks like on fb.. and word of mouth.. if i ever find out she did leave me for him. i would just go bezerk. i mean yes the relationship has been a ****ing rollercoaster but i ****ing loved her. and she wants more time. <-- which is her closure. but my closure is to let her know how i feel via a letter. should i do it or not. the letter will say how i feel and how she's helped me. but i really just freeking paranoid. that she left me for someone else. i'm also thinking maybe she was using me for the last few months until she had someone else to go with... no wonder guys treat girls like asses.. and yet alone she broke it off with me a day after i baked her a cake saying happy anniversary. maybe she was doing it because she didn't want to hurt me anymore then if we kept going but i want my closure so i can move on.. any advice please?? Edited June 5, 2011 by jeffrey88
Fedor Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 Jeff, from what I've read, I dont like your ex. At every turn, she has questioned your relationship and you stuck around. Why? This isnt love, man. You dont have crushes on 6 other guys and take other guys out to the movies if your in love. Your better off. I'm sure you could do so much better than that jerk.
stray Posted June 5, 2011 Posted June 5, 2011 You don't need "closure". What about people who experience the sudden death of a loved one - did they get closure? Do they keep calling and texting the dead person's phone asking for closure? No, that would be insane. Your closure came when she essentially told you she had been screwing you over. That was closure. That's when you *should have* slammed that door shut. Case closed.
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